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I lived out on an island in puget sound. New retirees moved in all the time, and many moved out before long. It's a lottery. If both people stay healthy, reasonably satisfied with their relationship and reasonably adept at fixing storm damage and just the ordinary maintenance needs of houses, (the available plumbers, handy men, etc. tend to be expensive, or useless, or drunks, or all of the above.) All this and they don't get lonesome the situation lasts until somebody gets seriously ill. From that day on, it can be an unhappy lonely struggle.Here's an example for us all -
My friend is 80 and her husband 75. He had a major stroke at 72. He went from a strong, vigorous working man to one who can barely brush his teeth.
8 years ago they bought their dream retirement home in the woods. Big house with a big garden. 1.5 hour drive one way (3 hours r/t) to medical resources. They don't have children and all relatives are in Europe.
Now my friend is exhausted with chores and caregiving every day. Between the two of them, they must drive to medical appointments 3 times a month or more.
8 years ago, they should have downsized their belongings and moved into a modest home near medical resources. Now my poor friend is doing the Big Downsize with the help of a few friends so she can put the house on the market. And her husband had another small stroke last week.
Very sad.
There are many ways to see this, but for many after age 60 or so IMO it is safer to live in the city, or a suburb with unusually good public transit.
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