RetiredHappy
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This is pre-mature but I sometimes think about it.
Assuming my husband goes before I do, I have to make a decision as to where I want to live. My son would like me to move in with him and he won't want to move out of his home. We have had that conversation about it. With his disability (ASD), changes are hard and I won't want to move into his small home, and climb stairs to go up to the bedrooms.
I can remain in my home but the concern is that it will be much too stressful and difficult for him to sort through my stuff and list it for sale after I die. I am in a different state from his. We have a ton of art work and nice stuff. We belong to the country club here and I golf alot but I am willing to give it up.
I have 4 options:
- Remain in my home and he will have to deal with the sale of my home when I die. Not a preferred choice.
- Sell my home, buy another home closer to his home. Decorate minimally. Probably easier to prepare the home for sale if the home is sparsely furnished. Golf at public courses.
- Sell my home, buy another home in his city, like a Del Webb with golf courses. Decorate minimally.
- Sell my home. Move into a nice independent living cottage in his city without worrying that he will have to sell my home after I die. Assuming that I am allowed to keep my car. Golf at public courses.
Money is not a concern. I want it to be easier for him to handle my affairs after I pass.
Thoughts?
Assuming my husband goes before I do, I have to make a decision as to where I want to live. My son would like me to move in with him and he won't want to move out of his home. We have had that conversation about it. With his disability (ASD), changes are hard and I won't want to move into his small home, and climb stairs to go up to the bedrooms.
I can remain in my home but the concern is that it will be much too stressful and difficult for him to sort through my stuff and list it for sale after I die. I am in a different state from his. We have a ton of art work and nice stuff. We belong to the country club here and I golf alot but I am willing to give it up.
I have 4 options:
- Remain in my home and he will have to deal with the sale of my home when I die. Not a preferred choice.
- Sell my home, buy another home closer to his home. Decorate minimally. Probably easier to prepare the home for sale if the home is sparsely furnished. Golf at public courses.
- Sell my home, buy another home in his city, like a Del Webb with golf courses. Decorate minimally.
- Sell my home. Move into a nice independent living cottage in his city without worrying that he will have to sell my home after I die. Assuming that I am allowed to keep my car. Golf at public courses.
Money is not a concern. I want it to be easier for him to handle my affairs after I pass.
Thoughts?
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