Thanks for all the expressions of support. I have looked intently at the MD Anderson stuff, but unless it is hidden very well, they don't have specific support for this type of cancer - peritoneal mesothelioma in the abdomen. It is apparently extremely rare, with only a few hundred cases a year. DW is taking it better then I am right now. I told her that I will need a few days to process and get over the shock, and hopefully she can hang on and wait for me, as she is very strong. I just want to cry/kill someone/break things. After 40 years, it's not supposed to be like this, the man is supposed to die, leaving the widow to enjoy the financial remains. I know that is extremely selfish, and I feel bad about it, but I still am going through the grief process. I'm getting better, and thanks for all your expressions of support. It's amazing, that she almost can't get any rest during the day, for all the phone calls from her friends and support folks calling to express support and help. I knew that she was loved and very special, and the support calls are affirming that. I'm sure that I wouldn't get that kind of response, and that's okay, I bask in her shadow. As the song goes, she is the wind beneath my wings.
Anyway, I'm still trying to find the treatment doctor/hospital for her, and even though I'm in Texas, I may have to travel to several other states to find one. It appears there is an expert in New Mexico and another in Idaho. And of course the Mayo clinic for a hospital. Is it better to pick the hospital or the doctor?
Thanks for your support.