prudent_one
Recycles dryer sheets
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^ I relate to that. You have to let people help even if you don't actually need it. There's no way to avoid it, otherwise they either think you consider their help inadequate, unwanted, and/or unhelpful.
I learned that lesson the hard way years ago. Thought I was being all noble by telling my sister she didn't need to bring any meals when I had surgery and was not on top of my game for a week. And I really didn't need any meals, I had plenty of frozen dinners that I was fine with. She has a very busy life so I was very insistent there was no need to bring any meals. None. Because I didn't want to inconvenience her for no good reason.
A couple years later, I'm going to her house for dinner with her family and she calls me the day before and asks if I'm going to be OK with the menu she planned. I said why would I object? She said since I told her not to bring any meals when I was laid up she assumed I hated her cooking.
But the kicker was after I convinced her it was only because I didn't need her to go to the trouble, she said "the meals weren't even important, but you know I'm a nurse and I wanted to make sure you were doing OK at home."
So I learned, there are times when people want to do something nice for you, just let them even if you don't need the help. You feel good when you do something for someone else, let them have that same feeling.
I learned that lesson the hard way years ago. Thought I was being all noble by telling my sister she didn't need to bring any meals when I had surgery and was not on top of my game for a week. And I really didn't need any meals, I had plenty of frozen dinners that I was fine with. She has a very busy life so I was very insistent there was no need to bring any meals. None. Because I didn't want to inconvenience her for no good reason.
A couple years later, I'm going to her house for dinner with her family and she calls me the day before and asks if I'm going to be OK with the menu she planned. I said why would I object? She said since I told her not to bring any meals when I was laid up she assumed I hated her cooking.
But the kicker was after I convinced her it was only because I didn't need her to go to the trouble, she said "the meals weren't even important, but you know I'm a nurse and I wanted to make sure you were doing OK at home."
So I learned, there are times when people want to do something nice for you, just let them even if you don't need the help. You feel good when you do something for someone else, let them have that same feeling.