RoadAhead43 said:She got treated pretty bad at her last job though and, rightfully so, doesn't get real excited about returning to that mess.
Join the club.
RoadAhead43 said:She got treated pretty bad at her last job though and, rightfully so, doesn't get real excited about returning to that mess.
newguy888 said:As woody allen said in a movie, I try not to keep up with the jonses, I BRINGEM down to my level!
boutros said:People generally marry others with similar goals and values. Together you had a child and built a home. If you built a 5000 sf home LBYM was not always one of either partners' goals. LBYM is not for everyone. Asking your wife sell the house and start LBYM is a big request. It may run counter to what she values. It probably runs counter to what you valued a few years ago. Just because your values change doesn't mean that her's will too. Try to keep this in mind as you work out a compromise.
I strongly feel that less is more.
The $50k would almost certainly go to curtains and other accoutrements for the new place.
RoadAhead43 said:What can I say? I changed my mind....I see things differently now. If it were 1962, I'd probably be heading for the nearest commune.
ash said:Roadahead,
Although I would offer caution in the whole "third party" analysis for a couple of reasons: 1) It doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. This is your life, you need to live it the way you want. 2) Anyone can always find someone to agree with them. Your wife could simply go out and find someone to back her position up (and there are probably more people in the world willing to back up a high consumption lifestyle than there are willing to back up LBYM.)
I've seen plenty of "ministers" (your word) give biased advice. Ministers in and of themselves have to be biased. (They certainly aren't going to recommend a divorce for example!)AltaRed said:I am stunned by the misunderstandings regarding 3rd party intervention. No "trained" 3rd party sides with either side nor offers an opinion about what is right! It's about guiding the discussion as a mediator between 2 parties having difficulty having a real conversation and understanding each other. Having said that, it takes both parties to want to do that...
We're renting a house right now, and probably will for at least another year or two while we wait to see what happens with the RE market, which has at the very least stopped going up in our area.RoadAhead43 said:How does your new residence compare to the old? Money aside, which one do you prefer? Are you looking at any $$ for improvements to the new place to bring it up to snuff?
I own a small IT firm (with a business partner) that I am looking to exit from within the next year. So, currently I am working just as hard as before, although that isn't very hard. Honestly though, you may be right, since my net worth has increased I do find myself less interested in work.RoadAhead43 said:Do you find that you are still working as hard as before, or do you really have more free time now ? Have you left your old job? Is your goal to retire early? How have you and your wife adjusted to the lesser material stuff?
I told my wife about this thread, and how it closely matched our position and she had a good laugh (at me, not at you!). We went through some really tough discussions on the issue, and like I mentioned it took a year for me to convince her (and myself somewhat) that this was the best thing to do.RoadAhead43 said:I would love to do exactly as you have done. After a rough weekend, due to discussions on this topic, my wife is showing some flexibility...the time may be near.