Boho,
Please see a dentist.
I appreciate that you distrust dentists and may not be able to afford an expensive treatment. But not all dentists are out to rip you off. Some states have a database of doctors and dentists that you can check for a current license and any sanctions against them. Of course, there are some bad apples, but certainly not all. As others have suggested, a dental school may be a good option or a public dental clinic.
I have had some bad experiences with dentists (an awful root canal for one) and I am VERY anxious having any work done. And it seems that the ones I like want to retire early! [emoji23]At times, this has kept me from getting regular care.
About a year ago, I lost a filling and needed to find a new dentist fast. I went to a large group practice and they were having a special for new patients. $99 for an exam including xrays. (This is in Manhattan)The dentist was recommending a fair amount of work and I was skeptical.
I found another dentist to get a second opinion and had the xrays emailed. The second dentist looked at my xrays and recommended a bit less work. He did not examine me, but based his plan on the xrays and our discussion. I spent about 30 minutes with him and he did not charge me for this!!! We spent some time talking about his approach to dentistry and my anxiety. He noted that he could prescribe anti-anxiety meds for me. No one has ever suggested this to me!!!! It has made a HUGE difference! Needless to say, he is now my dentist. I did make an appointment for a more through exam and so far I am pleased with the work he has done. He shows me the xrays and explains what needs to be done.
As others have written, ask friends and neighbors for recommendations. Call and ask for prices. You might be surprised. Many dentists will not charge for an initial discussion of approach, etc. This could help you evaluate if the practitioner is a good fit for you.
Good luck and keep us posted.