The first thing for your son to do is to honestly assess what is being fought over. Emotions run hot on both sides. Often the desire to "win" the battle overrides the better sense.
Circumstances leading up to a divorce often place the trust level between the parties at zero, compounded by anger and resentment. And of course, what one person feels is "fair" is often different from what the other party feels is "fair".
Unless the value of what is being fought over is over a hundred thousand or so, (and by that I meant the difference between what "he" wants and what "she" wants, not the total size of the pie), your son would probably be better off acquiescing, and getting started putting his life back together. At 40 (I got the Big D at age 42) he has plenty of time to get back on the FIRE track.
I have relatives and friends who have practiced (and some still practice) divorce law. It can be incredibly time consuming, and while some divorce attorneys do like to prime the pump, even the ones who are conscientiously trying to get to a settlement can still suck up a lot of money.
Circumstances leading up to a divorce often place the trust level between the parties at zero, compounded by anger and resentment. And of course, what one person feels is "fair" is often different from what the other party feels is "fair".
Unless the value of what is being fought over is over a hundred thousand or so, (and by that I meant the difference between what "he" wants and what "she" wants, not the total size of the pie), your son would probably be better off acquiescing, and getting started putting his life back together. At 40 (I got the Big D at age 42) he has plenty of time to get back on the FIRE track.
I have relatives and friends who have practiced (and some still practice) divorce law. It can be incredibly time consuming, and while some divorce attorneys do like to prime the pump, even the ones who are conscientiously trying to get to a settlement can still suck up a lot of money.