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wow. diversity of opinions. if you write an apology letter, please do not make it a non-apology letter.... "i am sorry IF i bla bla bla" as soon as you insert the if, you are saying that if i did NOT "whatever", then i am not apologizing. Also avoid the word but. "I am sorry i got upset but...." As soon as you throw out the but, it negagtes the entire apology. simply man up, say "i was wrong. seriously wrong. I reacted horribly to the situation and i am sorry." (if you were friends before, you can reach out and say somehing like... "I hope to one day regain at least some part of the friendship we used to have". fall on your sword. if you were wrong, then make no "qualifications" in your apology.
Just my two cents.
Good points all. A proper apology (to anyone) admits without equivocation what was done, acknowledges that the act was wrong, when possible offers a remedy for damages done, and pledges reformed behavior in the future.