Bestwifeever
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Pretty sure we just made each other laugh and we had great chemistry. We didn't think or plan beyond that.
“Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.”
What works for the success of your marriage?
This thread and the adage above makes me stop and think about who I could have married. Absolutely scares the bejeebers out of me "now" to imagine how a couple of those would have likely turned out. Glad I thought those through with the "head" God gave me on my shoulders.“Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come 90 percent of all your happiness or misery.”
(paraphrasing)
Another key aspect - we learned to not complain about each other to other people.
People just give up too easily . . .
This thread and the adage above makes me stop and think about who I could have married. Absolutely scares the bejeebers out of me "now" to imagine how a couple of those would have likely turned out. Glad I thought those through with the "head" God gave me on my shoulders.
Communication and listening, REALLY Listening, and voicing back what you understand for clarification, has been the key for us. Give and take, it's not always 50/50, sometimes 90/10. Be open to change. Stay on the same wavelength with kids, if you have them. Remembering what you fell in love with about each other. Expressing "I love you".
Time together and "me time" is important also.
Going on 40 years! It hasn't always been fun or easy, however, I know he always has my back and we still make each other laugh!