I am dealing with something and would appreciate feedback or your own story as it relates or is similar to this--
My mom passed January 15 after a fairly long illness, the past year being pretty tough.
My parents were married for 63 years, uber "traditional" marriage, where he worked and she was a homemaker. My dad literally was unable/unwilling to even make himself a sandwich, let alone dinner, or clean the dishes, etc.
My dad was very angry at my mom once she was not able to get around to make his meals and do things for him--when she got sicker.
So, my sister and I arrived for the memorial. We had, with my bro and SIL done a ton of work on the memorial, pictures, video, etc.
My dad said he did not "want to make it look like she had a fun and easy life". We still don't know what that meant.
A few days before the memorial my dad told my sister and I that "I don't intend to live alone". Further prodding on our part revealed that he has three women friends that apparently he is vetting to be his next spouse/maid/cook whatever. And that he has been working this angle for a couple of years since we knew my mom was terminal.
The day of the services he told us that he was going to take off his wedding ring.
Now he has order us to "clear anything of hers out of the house" ASAP...
I have never had a good relationship with my dad, nor has my sister, think Great Santini type of guy...
I am trying to make sense of all this. Maybe I can't but perhaps some words of wisdom from the members here will help..
Thanks
My mom passed January 15 after a fairly long illness, the past year being pretty tough.
My parents were married for 63 years, uber "traditional" marriage, where he worked and she was a homemaker. My dad literally was unable/unwilling to even make himself a sandwich, let alone dinner, or clean the dishes, etc.
My dad was very angry at my mom once she was not able to get around to make his meals and do things for him--when she got sicker.
So, my sister and I arrived for the memorial. We had, with my bro and SIL done a ton of work on the memorial, pictures, video, etc.
My dad said he did not "want to make it look like she had a fun and easy life". We still don't know what that meant.
A few days before the memorial my dad told my sister and I that "I don't intend to live alone". Further prodding on our part revealed that he has three women friends that apparently he is vetting to be his next spouse/maid/cook whatever. And that he has been working this angle for a couple of years since we knew my mom was terminal.
The day of the services he told us that he was going to take off his wedding ring.
Now he has order us to "clear anything of hers out of the house" ASAP...
I have never had a good relationship with my dad, nor has my sister, think Great Santini type of guy...
I am trying to make sense of all this. Maybe I can't but perhaps some words of wisdom from the members here will help..
Thanks