Teacher Terry
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I think it’s a great idea to visit her and you are being a wonderful sister.
Thank you all for your support. Today my sister told me that her friendly neighbor has moved his office into her guest room and that he’s now sleeping there a couple of times per week. I asked her if she’d consider running a background check on him before this goes further and she said she thought it was a good idea. I told her I’d get it done for her. Could be a breakthrough, depending on how she reacts to what it says. I’m making calls tomorrow to get it done ASAP.
Best of luck to you.
Dealing with friends/family with addiction issues is never easy, you want to do the most helpful and what's best. They are the ones who have to do the work on their own issues.
He kept saying he has a girlfriend and my sister is only a friend that he just wants to help. Bizarre that a virtual stranger is willing to provide so much “help” that he neglects his primary relationship, .
DH and I are still in the midst of our trip here, but so glad we came. My sister’s life is even worse than I realized. Her finances are a disaster zone - very disorganized, lots of unpaid and unopened mail and bills, etc. The con man supposedly wasn’t living with her fully, but the entire guest BR closet was full of clothes and he had keys to her place. We got him out today! On Thursday she told him we needed the guest room so we could stay there. Thursday night we changed the locks, and Friday she told him he couldn’t stay there any more and needed to pick up his belongings. He got extremely aggressive and threatened her with civil litigation and told her he had every right to be there and was coming back to stay. We went to the local police, and thank goodness they agreed to call him and tell him he had to get out at 8 am today. The police supervised the entire process. Yay, he’s gone!! And the girlfriend apparently kicked him out a while ago because he’s a con man. That’s when he targeted my sister. He needed another free place to stay.
My sister has agreed to go to long-term alcohol rehab (6 months plus) and her lawyer told her if she didn’t, she would likely go to jail on 11/22 for 1-2 years. We are trying to find a program to take her by next Tuesday. We also have to help her find a place for her cats and get me set up to take care of her finances, etc., while she’s there. Lots to do but I think this will be a fruitful trip!
Thanks to all for your interest and advice.
Great news and progress. Be sure to get POA over her finances so you are legally safe in case she changes her mind once you are gone.