FUEGO
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So maybe $50,000 total debt, this perhaps underestimated too. I assume that you know this is hopeless, but keep up with it for the entertainment value? It is probably hopeless even if she were to change overnight, get a straight job and start saving.
Guessing about the unknown/undisclosed, I would estimate:
$30-40k gambling debt
$30k CC or other unsecured debt
$20k owed to various family/friends
$80-90k total. I imagine a bankruptcy would wipe a couple of these clean and cram down on the other creditors for the rest under a Chapter 13. The house and new car payment could be serviced as well most likely if BIL and SIL were committed to the plan.
But that only addresses the financial aspects, not the ongoing gambling problem.
Not quite hopeless yet (from a financial standpoint), but very very ugly in the best case scenario.
I guess my ongoing involvement is part entertainment, part emotional for BIL's and his kids' sake. Partly helping him with as smooth a crash landing as possible.
At the end of the day, BIL is a good guy. I'm as close to him as I am to my own brother, and I see more of his kids than I do my nieces and nephews on my side of the family.