FUEGO
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I had a lot of things to say about this, but none of it seems to work for me. This is sad and wrong. I thought that a possible solution here was for the husband to divorce her and take the kids, but I'm starting to think he has some functionality issues as well. That, or he's just no kid of man that I can empathize or sympathize with.
I didn't realize the mention of the sandwich would set off a debate!
It was one of those huge 2' suckers from the grocery store I think. So probably an ample brunch for 4. I'm sure they had SOME food around the house (asian people, so they had rice and soy sauce at a minimum). Just that I heard multiple comments from the husband that "things aren't like they used to be at our house" in regards to always having something to eat.
I don't think any of the intervention's invitees were expecting a meal - I actually mentioned "what to serve" in jest in this thread. But I was hungry and about to cook a steak for DW and I, then she suggested we don't have enough for SIL's husband and kids who arrived a few hours early (around 3 pm, intervention around 6 pm), so I switched it up last minute to a huge pot of spaghetti and sauce. I would feel just a tinge guilty gorging on steak in front of my BIL and nephews! But BIL was too proud to ask for anything to eat. We just made the food and asked him to eat with us. I know for 100% this was not a pity plea or some acting on his behalf - he's the one telling me NOT to give his gambling wife the $$.
I did realize some of where our food has been going. We always send a good bit of food to MIL's house each Monday to feed our kids for the week (who stay with MIL during the day). It seems to be a lot of food that we would send every week. Apparently the SIL would grab a little here and there to make something at home, and her 3 boys age 9-13 eat WAY more than me it seems (and I'm quite the glutton!) while they were staying at grandma's house along with my kids. Not a big deal though, since for years we have traded food back and forth if someone makes a lot of something or grows a lot of extra stuff in their gardens. I would rather provide food for my nephews than them starve.
That postponed steak dinner is calling me right now, so I'll post more later.