Katsmeow
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Your description of your DD is a carbon copy of my 20 year old niece, my DS struggles daily with every item you just talked about. Someone who hasn't been thru it can't understand the emotional and financial toll mental illness takes on the entire family.
Indeed. I think part of what is so hard is that it is so difficult to know when to pull the plug on the financial help. It wouldn't be that hard for an adult child with no mental illness. Our younger son had graduated college and was sort of aimless about what he was going to do next. Looking for a job but being picky/not liking options. We were clear with him that, hey, he had graduated so needed to support himself. In his case, that went fine. He thought about and decided to go to grad school (on his cost). SO that was fine.
But, with mental illness it makes it hard. You want to help so much. And, with each cost it is hard to know where to draw the line. This one won't bankrupt you but cumulatively it can really affect standard of living over time. And, eventually, we realized that we aren't really helping her. She isn't using the help to help her to try to get better.