Amethyst
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
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I'm all for dutch or alternating paying. I always offered to pay for my own dinner back when I was dating. Guys would act insulted, as in "Don't you think I can afford it?" The two I ended up marrying were both 100% dinner payers, whether I liked it or not. However, they never implied anything crass or "transactional."
Mr. A. and I were just friends when he invited me over to his house. I went with misgivings, as, in my unfortunate between-marriages experience, this could be a prelude to an attempted grab. But he only wanted to show off his art, video collection, full bookshelves, and the furniture he'd picked out for himself after the ex came over with a truck, while he was at work, and cleaned out the house. He could not possibly have chosen a more attractive thing to do, especially the art. I had given up on meeting guys who would know a Monet from a Miro.
Mr. A. and I were just friends when he invited me over to his house. I went with misgivings, as, in my unfortunate between-marriages experience, this could be a prelude to an attempted grab. But he only wanted to show off his art, video collection, full bookshelves, and the furniture he'd picked out for himself after the ex came over with a truck, while he was at work, and cleaned out the house. He could not possibly have chosen a more attractive thing to do, especially the art. I had given up on meeting guys who would know a Monet from a Miro.
I've never ”expected" anything physical from a date. That said, if a woman isn't interested in me physically I think going on more than one "date" with a guy who pays for everything would seem like a somewhat dishonest thing to do as the basic premise of the guy picking up the tab is ostensibly that he's using his time and money to help convey his romantic interest. Wanna just hang out and be friends, go dutch..