Worries

[Jarhead*]

Cut-Throat?  I thought that was JG's situation.

ReWahoo: Didn't mean to imply that Cutthroat quit work and sent his wife out to work.

She was working before he quit, and continues to work full time.

 

[haha]

When I lived in LA I knew a young woman who was a radiologist. She lived in a great house in the Hollywood Hills, and had a good social life. She worried incessantly that she would get cancer. While this is possible, it was not likely. Get her Pap smears and quit worrying. But she could not.

That is the way worries are. There are concerns, and then there are worries. Concerns you try to address, but you can still get a good night's sleep, unless they are really bearing down on you. Worries can destroy your sleep even when they are very unlikely.

I look a little like Alfred E. Newman. In fact the first thing my wife to be ever said to me when I called her was, “Are you the one who looks like Alfred E. Newman?” (That was perhaps a bad omen, but I’ll leave that for another time.) Yet I do worry, more than I would like. Over the years it has gotten better. Some of this comes from having way more money. Money really is a good anti-worry drug.

Ha

 

[Billy]

MJ:

Auntie Em, what the f*** am I doing?   

HaHa:

That is the way worries are. There are concerns, and then there are worries. Concerns you try to address, but you can still get a good night's sleep, unless they are really bearing down on you. Worries can destroy your sleep even when they are very unlikely.

I think you both have put your finger on it in different ways... 

MJ I commend you for your personal bravery!

And to HaHa - I think the (+/-) quote from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross is worth putting here:

Fear doesn't stop loss from happening, it stops Life. That, of course, doesn't mean I don't have my own moments of worry... 

Akaisha
Author, The Adventure's Guide to Early Retirement

 

[sgeeeee]

I worry that . . .

my new blackberry bush cuttings may not survive,

I may not be able to fit all the clippings from the rubber tree in the trash can this week,

I left the contact information for people I just met in my hotel in San Antonio last week and won't be able to contact them,

my neighbors may screw up the valve settings and keep me from getting my irrigation allotment next month while I'm in Montreal

. . . but not much.

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

Cut-Throat? I thought that was JG's situation.

Seems to be widespread.

Some of our wives work because they want to though, not because they have to.

So Ha, that means I should be worried that someone is going to make stuff look better and more attractive to me than it is and that I'll want to buy stuff I dont really need?

 

[HFWR]

"I worried about it a little bit, but that's all..."

John Hartford

 

[Nords]

ReWahoo:  Didn't mean to imply that Cutthroat quit work and sent his wife out to work.

She was working before he quit, and continues to work full time. 

As I understand the current situations, Cut-Throat's, JG's, & TH's spouses have chosen to work full time.

My spouse was part-time but has since been afforded a one-year "unrefuseable offer" to donate her Nayv Reserve skills for free (plus retirement points). Better luck in 2007...

Anyone else?

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

My wife only works 3 days a week. Next year maybe just 2.

 

[Nords]

My wife only works 3 days a week.  Next year maybe just 2.

Sorry, I should've remembered that. No offense intended!

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

At fifty, just one day so we can get the health care (although we'll have to pay for a big chunk of it), and fire all the rest of the income into her 403b.

I dont think I'll follow through on the suggestion that she would have to stick with 3 days for an extra couple of years to pay off the lexus. I'd like to see her naked from time to time.

 

[Nords]

I'd like to see her naked from time to time.

Too many pronouns. Which object of the last sentence is the subject of this one?

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

Sorry that was so fragmented. I was distraught from the offensive nature of your post.

 

[Jarhead*]

So Ha, that means I should be worried that someone is going to make stuff look better and more attractive to me than it is and that I'll want to buy stuff I dont really need?

TH: In reading Ha's post, it made a lot of sense to me.  He was talking about the "journey" to reach a point of not having to worry as much about money as he used to.
Raising a young family in the 60's and 70's, I can damn sure relate to what he was implying.

I can also understand your not being able to relate.  Being a single stock option millionaire your late 30's puts you in a very "specific" category, and apparantly unable to relate to what Ha was talking about.

Ask your dad, maybe he'll explain it to you.

Jarhead

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

I'd say you took me out of context, but i took myself out.

That comment was in reference to his friend the oncologist that was constantly worried about getting cancer.

So I, the former marketing guy, should be worried about being marketed to.

As a guy who was on his own from 16, and ate a lot of ramen noodles well into my 20's, I can certainly relate to the sentiments.

 

[REWahoo]

As I understand the current situations, Cut-Throat's, JG's, & TH's spouses have chosen to work full time.

My spouse was part-time but has since been afforded a one-year "unrefuseable offer" to donate her Nayv Reserve skills for free (plus retirement points). Better luck in 2007...

Anyone else?

In the spirit of full disclosure, my DW went back to work full-time last month, working a 50+ hour week at what averages out to be about $2.00 per hour. It’s like this...

The son-in-law has been playing Mr. Mom to our three grandsons for the past several months while he was inbetween opportunites. He went back to work the first of January and DW says to me, “Do you want your grandsons to be raised by daycare workers!?” I’m not smart enough to figure out any affirmative response to that inquiry that woudn’t be hazrdous to my health. So...

She keeps them in their own home, a 25 minute drive, leaves at 6:30 AM and gets home at 6:30 PM. I figure she’s getting paid just about enough to cover the cost of gas for the daily commute and to cover part of the cost of the crap toys and goodies she’s always buying for them.

I’m brushing up on my cooking and house-husbanding skills and like Greg does for Martha, have a hot, nutritious meal waiting for her when she gets home from work. But our travel plans have definitely been torpedoed, at least for the forseeable future.

I’m learning that retired life is a lot like your working life...sometimes you’ve just gotta do what you gotta do.

 

[Ginger]

DH has been retired since October. I am still working full-time. Thinking of giving up the job the end of summer. Don't know why it is a hard decision. We have a pension, medical benefits, etc., Guess it is a process to just let go.
Rewahoo: I think it is great your wife has the time to help out with the grandsons. They will not need her help forever! Maybe you can go over with her one or two days a week and help out.

 

[REWahoo]

Rewahoo: I think it is great your wife has the time to help out with the grandsons. They will not need her help forever! Maybe you can go over with her one or two days a week and help out.

I do go help out a couple of times a week. When the oldest (2nd grade) gets home from school, the adult-to-kid ratio is considerably unfavorable.

 

[Nords]

...the adult-to-kid ratio is considerably unfavorable.

Even at 4:1 I feel undergunned.

 

[cute fuzzy bunny]

1:1 is good to wipe me out on a number of days.

The minute I find the rocket motor on this kid, i'm turning it off for good...

 

[Ginger]

I have my granddaughter all next week when I am home on vacation. Going to be fun. You are right --- the little ones are non-stop.

 

[Brat]

I worry that . . .

my new blackberry bush cuttings may not survive,

I can send you cuttings of a variety produces great fruit, is almost impossible kill. Ranks right up there with Morning Glory, English Ivy and Scotch Broom.    

 

[sgeeeee]

I can send you cuttings of a variety produces great fruit, is almost impossible kill. Ranks right up there with Morning Glory, English Ivy and Scotch Broom.    

I don't know what kind these plants are. My neighbor had some plants and whacked off some cuttings for me. I thought they died right off the bat. (I planted them then left town for two weeks). But last week I noticed some life in them.

I'm not sure the plants that thrive in Pudget Sound would do well in Phoenix. I try cuttings and seeds of anything from everywhere I travel. It's surprising what takes sometimes. The regular irrigation helps, but summers are brutal on plants here.

 

[Billy]

For those of us who can't find anything to worry about, try Scott Burns' recent article: We'll never outlive our worries
But we can outlive our money, so let's see our odds of survival


http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/bus/scottburns/columns/2006/stories/DN-burns_07bus.ART0.State.Edition2.20cf61c.html

Akaisha
Author, The Adventurer's Guide to Early Retirement

 

[haha]

Good article, Akaisha. I see that of the original 100,000 folks at birth, only a little over 2000 make it to 100. The 80s are the real killing field.

Here is another good Scott Burns article, this one about "Reinventing Oneself" Very interesting comment regarding pride.

Ha

 

[unclemick]

Yep - nothing like a hurricane and two deaths in the household to give one an atitude adjustment.

Eating my own words - back in snow country(aka up North of Slidell) - house in the burbs and enjoying it - so far. No longer run ORP calc.'s to 90 or 100 as often (at least not as seriously).

So much for - for I'll never do that again.

Still worry - but don't take myself near as serious anymore.

heh heh heh heh - may even buy a NAME BRAND box of dryer sheets this year.