livingalmostlarge
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We went to a corn maze this weekend with friends who are also chasing FIRE. Our kids are the same age and we're similar age and backgrounds. In theory they should easily outpace but they spend more because they are dual income and we are not. And so they spend more and recognize it. So their number is higher. But our timing has always been close.
Our kids are in 7th and 5th, and until recently my DH has said 2034 because he liked the idea of working until the DK2 finished college. Our friends were hoping to be done by 2028 or 2030 when the kids finished high school. That looks impossible with the hit the market is taking and obviously all "models" that predicted 10% returns to get them to the number has taken a shellacking.
The jobs are tiring and stressful and they want to walk away. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think if they can make it to 2028 or 2030, it'll be way easier. These are some of the most tiring/stressful years with the kids needing us to drive them to activities, getting ready for college. It's stressful and expensive in a way that it's different from when they were young but still there.
I think once the kids leave home (We both want them to go and experience college, not live at home) while they might work full time for a bit more to hit their number, life will be easier. Empty nest?
They'll have so much time to themselves they won't know what to do. The husband looked off and said that might be true. We're just in the trenches of child-rearing and personally I know it's exhausting right now but I don't want to miss a minute. I feel like I blinked and the breastfeeding exhaustion days were just here.
Now I have a DK who i look at and wonder when did she get as tall as me? And I'm looking at a young adult not a kid anymore. Then I hear the sighs and eye rolls and know I have my teen. It seems so fast. And life while tiring is easier in someways.
So what is it like if you worked while chasing FIRE during the kids college years? Was it easier? Knowing the number is there?
Our kids are in 7th and 5th, and until recently my DH has said 2034 because he liked the idea of working until the DK2 finished college. Our friends were hoping to be done by 2028 or 2030 when the kids finished high school. That looks impossible with the hit the market is taking and obviously all "models" that predicted 10% returns to get them to the number has taken a shellacking.
The jobs are tiring and stressful and they want to walk away. Maybe I'm wrong, but I think if they can make it to 2028 or 2030, it'll be way easier. These are some of the most tiring/stressful years with the kids needing us to drive them to activities, getting ready for college. It's stressful and expensive in a way that it's different from when they were young but still there.
I think once the kids leave home (We both want them to go and experience college, not live at home) while they might work full time for a bit more to hit their number, life will be easier. Empty nest?
They'll have so much time to themselves they won't know what to do. The husband looked off and said that might be true. We're just in the trenches of child-rearing and personally I know it's exhausting right now but I don't want to miss a minute. I feel like I blinked and the breastfeeding exhaustion days were just here.
Now I have a DK who i look at and wonder when did she get as tall as me? And I'm looking at a young adult not a kid anymore. Then I hear the sighs and eye rolls and know I have my teen. It seems so fast. And life while tiring is easier in someways.
So what is it like if you worked while chasing FIRE during the kids college years? Was it easier? Knowing the number is there?