Did you have to ease into it? Or dive right in?

Californians take note. Most Texans think a Latte is a state sponcored form of gambling in either France or Mexico. :confused:

The fire ants are not as troublesome as finding scorpions in your sink or bathtub.

The libraries here in south Texas have all the Zane Grey books and you can even find a VCR tape of Lonesome Dove, if'n you get your name on the waitin' list.

It don't get no better than that for public services. I don't know how they do so well without a state income tax.
 
TH, JG, NOW I know the two of you are collaborating to keep your top spots on the number of posts! Conspiracy! ;)
 
Well look at the disadvantage I'm at! John almost always posts twice in a row. Someone needs to show him how to 'edit' his ponderous musings... :LOL:
 
th said:
Well look at the disadvantage I'm at!  John almost always posts twice in a row.  Someone needs to show him how to 'edit' his ponderous musings... :LOL:
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Hey man................those "ponderous musings" come to you pre-edited.
I always strive for brevity. OTOH, I have a lot to say. Anyway, you are
at a "disadvantage". Anyone would be.

JG
 
Leslie,
I'm really late responding to your post. Shhhh don't tell anyone but I went to work yesterday. I know, I know I've been ER'ed for months now but they keep calling....the bells...the bells.

What was your question?

BUM
 
In some ways it took me years to get used to the idea of being "retired". Of course I was out at a young age (38) due to a work related disability. (I wanted to go back, the neurosurgeon who did my surgeries would not give me the ok, my employer wouldn't take me due to "liability" concerns)

I missed my co-workers terribly but got to spend vast amounts of time with my husband and sons which was great.

Hubby, otoh, retired 8 days ago and is loving every minute of it!! He may look for something in a few years and then again maybe not. It will all depend on how much he spends in retirement. (I'm the saver, he's the spender) He says he'd rather spend less and be retired but those new tools keep calling him. hehe We'll just have to wait and see.
 
kz said:
In some ways it took me years to get used to the idea of being "retired". Of course I was out at a young age (38) due to a work related disability. (I wanted to go back, the neurosurgeon who did my surgeries would not give me the ok, my employer wouldn't take me due to "liability" concerns)

I missed my co-workers terribly but got to spend vast amounts of time with my husband and sons which was great.

Hubby, otoh, retired 8 days ago and is loving every minute of it!! He may look for something in a few years and then again maybe not. It will all depend on how much he spends in retirement. (I'm the saver, he's the spender) He says he'd rather spend less and be retired but those new tools keep calling him. hehe We'll just have to wait and see.
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Well, best of luck to both of you. "Those new tools" is a problem I don't have. I try not to use the tools I have, much less lust after
new ones :)

JG
 
Thanks, JG. Hubby needs something to do all the time. And he loves, loves, loves being in his workshop. Or "at the land" with one of his best buddies cutting wood (he got a new chainsaw, too) or tinkering with something else.
Plus it keeps him out of my hair and telling me how to run the household. Silly man. :D
 
Leslie said:
When you quit working, did you know you were done forever?
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Leslie, maybe the 'problem' is that you like your job? In my case, work had become a living hell and I was on the way to a heart attack. I would open the door to Board meetings and say, "Lord put me out of my misery". That was one prayer that got answered pretty quickly! ;-)

One way to look at it is that you might need both carrots and sticks as you make up your mind to ER. Carrots -- the nice stuff you hope to do in ER is great. But the sticks -- the awful stuff you'd like to get away from -- may be a more meaningful spur to action.

If your job isn't bad, but you think ER is something you want, then focus on building up new interests that can draw you slowly forward toward something better than work.

You might also try taking a month off. You must have accumulated enough vacation time to do that now.

This might or might not apply to you, but just in case: what about your job do you like? Is it the thought of being the big cheese in your department? If so, then you can slowly dismantle that need or find wholesome substitutes for it. Most people, after a year at most, realize that the need to be the big cheese was something of an adolescent addiction. If you can walk away from that need, the whole world will open up to with new possible ways to spend the rest of your life.
 
I need to learn how to quote.

BUM: Hmm, my question...I almost forgot! It was whether you cut yourself off from work completely and forever and you knew you were going to do that, or if you gradually came around to the idea that you never wanted to work again. So I am curious, why after all of those months did the bells go off in your head? And are you working full time?

ESRBob--There are aspects of my job that I liked, but when I started having more bad days than good, I decided I can't do this anymore. You know those days you drive into work, and feel like dry heaving in the parking lot. Seriously. I seem to be surrounded with self-serving/ladder-climbing people who didn't care about their underlings, only themselves--I like to call those people "8x10 glossies"--all surface and no substance.

I need to decompress for many, many weeks. :)

Leslie
 
Leslie,
Now that I see how little is holding you there, I'd say it's time to get out now-- run, don't walk. But for heaven's sake don't go from there to another job-- that's the last thing you need right now! You need some be-nice-to-yourself kinds of activities like a spa/retreat, or renting a cottage in Tuscany for a month or a month at John Galt's place up at the lake in Wisconsin. :LOL:

How soon till you can walk?
 
I dove right in and I don't know that I'm done forever -- I'm in my early forties.

I suggest that you plan to spend your first three months doing something that you love to do but never had the time because of work. It could be traveling, a sport, or an intensive course, or a volunteer program. If you can't think of anything, then reconsider ER.

Best wishes.
 
Leslie said:
I need to learn how to quote.

BUM: Hmm, my question...I almost forgot!  It was whether you cut yourself off from work completely and forever and you knew you were going to do that, or if you gradually came around to the idea that you never wanted to work again.  So I am curious, why after all of those months did the bells go off in your head?  And are you working full time? 

ESRBob--There are aspects of my job that I liked, but when I started having more bad days than good, I decided I can't do this anymore.  You know those days you drive into work, and feel like dry heaving in the parking lot.  Seriously.  I seem to be surrounded with self-serving/ladder-climbing people who didn't care about their underlings, only themselves--I like to call those people "8x10 glossies"--all surface and no substance.   

I need to decompress for many, many weeks.   :)
 
Leslie
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Hello Leslie. I can understand the "decompress" thing, but in 35
years of working I never had a day like you describe in this post.
I know lots of others did though. Just lucky I guess...........

JG
 
Well, my fuse is also getting shorter as the clock ticks down to my leaving. My threshold for putting up with politics is much different than a few years ago. I'm sure I'll look back on it all with rosy glasses, and remember only the good stuff.

In the meantime, I have 8 working days left! :D
 
Leslie said:
Well, my fuse is also getting shorter as the clock ticks down to my leaving.  My threshold for putting up with politics is much different than a few years ago.   I'm sure I'll look back on it all with rosy glasses, and remember only the good stuff. 

In the meantime, I have 8 working days left!   :D
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Well, my fuse is always short (don't even think about it, th :) ).

Anyway, this morning I am calling around checking prices on a new
oven, and a few other things (fishing trips, doctor appointments etc). Things are not going as fast as I would like and I can feel my blood pressure rising. For what? It's a cheap oven and the other stuff
isn't happening until June. That Type A stuff again. It worked great
while I was employed. Now, it is frequently just a nuisance.

JG
oven
 
Oh come on, it was RIGHT THERE dangit...

I'm gonna say it anyway.

I always figured you for someone with a short "fuse". :)
 
th said:
Oh come on, it was RIGHT THERE dangit...

I'm gonna say it anyway.

I always figured you for someone with a short "fuse".  :)
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You're lucky to have me setting you up. However, when I make it that easy a real gentleman would ignore it and move on. But, I can
understand it's hard to let those fat "change-ups" go by
without swinging :)

JG
 
Leslie,

Disclaimer: CHP(Cocktail Hour Post) Two things:

1. Regarding Hubby's tools... I'm a die hard do-it-yourself'er. I remind DW that my contemporarys have red Miatas and blondes on the side. I want a saw, ok?

2. I'm not working FT. Nope, No way, not doing it, never again. This month I've worked 4 half days. Thats it. Its like a Godfather line, " the more I try to leave, the more they pull me back". I'm NOT going to yield to the temptation begging.

BUM


BUM ;)
 
BUM said:
I remind DW that my contemporarys have red Miatas and  blondes on the side. I want a saw,  ok?
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And that's why I read this board.

I can't believe that I sold my mid-life crisis for a mess of Black & Decker.  

This one's for you, TH:  Maybe it's time to rethink those tools & blondes.  Because I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to fit both in a Miata...
 
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