I think the size of the community makes a big difference.
I'm in a community of about 140 homes, almost all are fourplexes. Two community pools, two tennis courts, and a small community center. It feels like a friendly small village. The pool is very nice, and isn't crowded, and I'm getting to know some of the people who walk or swim.
There is a higher end golfing community across the main road from us. I looked on Google maps, it is easily 7-10 times larger than the one I'm in. They have a golf course with clubhouse that requires an additional membership, and they have two community pools. I suspect it is my personality and private tastes, but I wouldn't want to live there. They are SFHs, and are about twice the price, and double the HOA.
My neighbors brother lives over there, and he acted like that was impressive or a big deal.
I just reread my comments.
Okay, you are correct, I'm too cheap to live over there, and wouldn't fit in anyway.
At least I know my preferences.
JP