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Are you in a fault or no-fault state? Divorce laws vary by state. Since he moved out, some states regard that as abandonment and in most states you are in a strong position for divorce negotiations. Most states will regard you are reconciled if you allow him to move back in, which will negate any negotiating position you currently have and allow him time to move assets and position his next set of actions much more favorably. It is very common for runaway spouses to show true colors and intentions until their first discussion with a divorce attorney who explains the legal implications of their rash actions. As soon as they understand the consequences to themselves of what they've done, they start looking for ways to change the story to make it less financially painful, often with no regard at all for consequences to their partner(s).
In some cases couples do reconcile, but it takes great dedication and work by both people. In many cases, runaway spouse gets cold feet, tries to reposition themselves to avoid consequences of their actions and has no sincere interest in reconciliation. It can be just another manifestation of the selfish mindset that lead to cheating in the first place. Beware sudden change of spots. If you can get good info on your state laws, you really want to understand what you may be losing in terms of expected outcome if you are taken in by a sob story (whether he really believes it or not) only to be manipulated again once his legal position is more favorable to him.
In some cases couples do reconcile, but it takes great dedication and work by both people. In many cases, runaway spouse gets cold feet, tries to reposition themselves to avoid consequences of their actions and has no sincere interest in reconciliation. It can be just another manifestation of the selfish mindset that lead to cheating in the first place. Beware sudden change of spots. If you can get good info on your state laws, you really want to understand what you may be losing in terms of expected outcome if you are taken in by a sob story (whether he really believes it or not) only to be manipulated again once his legal position is more favorable to him.