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I think you are 100% correct, but IMO that horse is long out of the barn. Usually to have confidence in this, one needs an alternate value and support system, apart from US standard issue. Like a strong religious community, which to some degree enforces or supports the social requirements for stability in the situation you describe. Also, somehow prople need to be immunized against the corrosive effects of US popular culture- something more likely in alternate groups.Time to chime in...partially, from a child's point of view. I experienced profound emotional and spiritual support from being able to come home from school and have Mom or Grandma there. I remember them braiding my hair for school, ironing my clothes, fixing my lunch every single day - or giving me lunch money or milk money. I remember Grandma rubbing my back until I fell asleep when I was five years old. I remember Mom caring for my skinned knees, and she was always there to referee fights between my siblings and me. Those memories are priceless. They have nothing to do with money, but they certainly fed into the strengths I have today.
I believe that the archetypal feminine has, in our culture, been devalued - and, in other cultures as well. There is nothing that can take place of a functional mother. Men friends have told me that when soldiers die on the battlefield, they don't call out for "Dad," but rather, "Mom!"
That is not to say that I was only a stay-at-home Mom. During the years I have gone to school, worked, saved, worked in a professional field - and now my DH & I have a nice retirement partially due to my efforts. Plus, I was able to bandage our son's knee when he fell down - and give lots of love to my children in general.
I have found that there is a lot more that meets the eye in any story we hear about via popular media. Anyway, my $.02....
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