Snidely Whiplash
Recycles dryer sheets
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- Apr 12, 2009
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Sigh. It's so hard, as a parent, watching crummy things happen to your kids that you don't have any control over and can't help with.
Son is in the military, second in command of a very small unit. Current unit commander is a slug, offloads all work onto my son, takes credit when it is good, is quick to point the finger when things don't go well. As one example, It's to the point my son is actually doing all of the commanders reports, as well as his own.
Son is now being passed over for promotion because of the negative view superiors have of him. He can't request a transfer, can't buck the chain of command to express the issues that are occurring.
I am not blind to my son's faults, but he truly is getting the short end of the stick in this situation and I don't know what to suggest to him. Son has received excellent / superior ratings, reviews, and awards prior to the last few months, which I suspect is a big part of the problem. It looks like jealousy on the part of his unit commander is a big factor (both same rank). I can't understand why someone higher up doesn't see some disparity (son's performance going from "good to bad" with a new commander).
I don't know what to suggest; I've never myself been in such a situation. It is all so bizarre. I'm not even really sure why I'm posting this. Just hoping maybe someone here might have an idea or suggestion that I can pass along.
Son is in the military, second in command of a very small unit. Current unit commander is a slug, offloads all work onto my son, takes credit when it is good, is quick to point the finger when things don't go well. As one example, It's to the point my son is actually doing all of the commanders reports, as well as his own.
Son is now being passed over for promotion because of the negative view superiors have of him. He can't request a transfer, can't buck the chain of command to express the issues that are occurring.
I am not blind to my son's faults, but he truly is getting the short end of the stick in this situation and I don't know what to suggest to him. Son has received excellent / superior ratings, reviews, and awards prior to the last few months, which I suspect is a big part of the problem. It looks like jealousy on the part of his unit commander is a big factor (both same rank). I can't understand why someone higher up doesn't see some disparity (son's performance going from "good to bad" with a new commander).
I don't know what to suggest; I've never myself been in such a situation. It is all so bizarre. I'm not even really sure why I'm posting this. Just hoping maybe someone here might have an idea or suggestion that I can pass along.