Ready
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Why doesn't he just pay an escort?
That wouldn't conform with LBYM.
Why doesn't he just pay an escort?
YYou have to admit that he made it clear that he'll want sex ASAP in the relationship
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There are plenty of obstacles:
1. Scammers - all those 20-something 'hotties' from Taiwan and Russia who want an older man. Sure....
2. Super Women - they work out for three hours in the morning at the gym, play 18 holes of golf in the afternoon and go night skiing in the evening. In between they can whip up a gourmet dinner, and entertain at the old folks home playing concert piano. The next day they do it all again. They can fix a flat tire, and 45 minutes later are dressed up negotiating a multi-million dollar big business deal. All her kids are doctors, judges and millionaire entrepreneurs. They are great dancers and unbelievable lovers. Of course they are stunningly beautiful, and their profile photos show them in clingy dresses that are 'cut down to there and slit up to here' as my granny used to say. They want to know if a man can "keep up with me".
3. Instant Chemistry addicts - these women are addicted to instant 'chemistry'. They will know within 5 minutes if they have it with you. If there are no fireworks when you meet, the birds don't start singing, and the bells don't start ringing then it's 'sorry buddy, but you are not the one'.
4. ?Does She Care? types - these women have a nice profile but when you meet them you find that she is a mess - I mean I have had women turning up for the first meeting dressed like she just finished plowing the lower 40. Others, just tie back their hair and look like they spent the last three hours washing dishes in greasy spoon diner. It seems that simply washing up and putting on some clean clothes is just not worth the effort.
OK the above is exaggeration, but not a huge exaggeration.
Me? I had a subscription to an OLD (OnLine Dating) site. With two weeks left to go and no real successes, I went on one last messaging fling to see if I could find someone. Guess, what? I found a lady who seems to be a good possibility. She is not one of the four types above and that is as good start. Maybe she is in the 2%? Time will tell.
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The hardest part is the biggest weakness a man has: no-one tells me I am a wonderful person. .
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I do recall one fellow in college, who complained that if a man got excited he had to have sex, or else his penis might explode. He was serious, and I was me. I asked if I could watch.
I do recall one fellow in college, who complained that if a man got excited he had to have sex, or else his penis might explode. He was serious, and I was me. I asked if I could watch.
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I do recall one fellow in college, who complained that if a man got excited he had to have sex, or else his penis might explode. ...
Never give up looking. My girlfriend tried the online dating services few quite a few years and met some very nice men (little odd, dentist that talked about space aliens and electrical engineer that was super religious, both first dates) but no keepers. All of her friends send men her way and she does a lot of hiking, kayaking meet-ups. She was hiking with a group in Virginia this past weekend and met a man. Other friend that was there said they clicked right away AND he's from our area. I've got my fingers crossed for her. You have to put yourself out there and keep looking.
One thing I don't understand on many of the dating sites from what I remember was the number of guys posting pics of themselves standing by their car or truck I just don't get it.
...For me it's all about personality. My husband is "the quiet man" and I'm the social butterfly. I drag him out to car club meetings, car shows, cruise nights, wood carver shows. These are all things that are of interest to him but he's so introverted he wouldn't go unless I initiate it...
I do recall one fellow in college, who complained that if a man got excited he had to have sex, or else his penis might explode. He was serious, and I was me. I asked if I could watch.
One thing I don't understand on many of the dating sites from what I remember was the number of guys posting pics of themselves standing by their car or truck I just don't get it.
I think that the harder you look, the more you stress about it, the greater you chance of not finding it. I was 38 when I finally gave up and quit looking.. within 6 months I found her and she found me.
Good for you. Your story teared me up too. Having a good relationship with your SO's kids is so important. Sometimes not easy.I was widowed after 30 years of marriage. The last 12 years were as a caregiver for my brain injured wife. She recovered about 90% function, but had a personality shift.
I was on a grief recovery website, and there was a lady there who struck me as the most caring person I had ever known.
We found out we lived only 40 miles apart, and agreed to meet half way for lunch. As I walked her to her car after lunch, I said what i think was the smartest thing I ever said. I said, "I would like to see you again".
We will be celebrating our 10th anniversary in November.
My birthday this year came around Mother's day, which we celebrated with her 2 sons, wives, and grandchild. Her older son gave me a card that really teared me up.
He wrote-Happy birthday, we love you.I couldn't have asked for someone better to take care of my Mom.
And speaking of photos, why in the world do so many women post so many bad photos of themselves? Really, I kid you not. Among the bad ones I have seen are:
1. The woman is frowning and looking very unpleasant, like she is suffering from a migraine.. Sometimes she even looks hostile. Will she bite my head off the moment I displease her?
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8. I'll save the worst for last - the out of date photos that are at least 5 and probably 10 years old. When they meet, the man will know he has been fooled. These remind me of bald men who always wear a hat in their photo (those bald is apparently very sexy these days). Or guys who overstate their financial status, height, love of children, and cooking abilities. Don't lie.
I forgot the worst photo type, the deceptive photo i.e. a super close-up of the face. Then you meet them in person and find out they're 3x the size you thought they were.
I forgot the worst photo type, the deceptive photo i.e. a super close-up of the face. Then you meet them in person and find out they're 3x the size you thought they were.
A simple example of this is the height filter that women often use on sites like Match.com. A large percentage of women set their minimum desired height to 6'0", and this alone immediately screens out roughly 80% of the population of available men. Yet were they to meet these shorter men in real life, at a social function or though more "natural", traditional means, a fair number of these women would find themselves attracted to the men for other reasons, in spite of their height.