AnotherDreamer
Dryer sheet wannabe
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- Apr 2, 2018
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Perhaps he'll tell her eventually. As I indicated, if I were my uncle's confidant, I'd suggest that he do so more than a few times.
I'll take your advice to heart and if I feel there is a comfortable time, maybe try and press the issue. His pain makes him rather moody most of the time, which is completely understandable. So I try and enjoy the good moments.
Do you actually know that? Have you seen the will? Is it possible he is telling you what he thinks you'd like to hear so that you will continue to help him?
(One of the tenets of "undue influence" is when the elder is afraid if he doesn't leave everything to the caregiver, that the caregiver will withhold care.)
Interesting, and good to know how influence is determined. As for the will, no I haven't seen it and it is certainly possible he's just saying that in fear. I hadn't considered that possibility. I'll be sure to make it clear I'm there no matter what. This was a very considerate point to bring up, thinking through his perspective.
I wish you well and hope things work out for everyone. Hopefully, your sister will understand when the time comes.
Good luck.
Thanks for your kind wishes and again, as with everyone else, very illuminating reflections.