Thanks for all the positive thoughts. I really appreciate it.
She is definitely adjusting to FIRE. The first 2 years after she retired, we lived in San Francisco and we were doing a lot of exploring and traveling. After we moved to the South, we spent a lot of time renovating the house and that kept us very busy. But since the beginning of this year, things have quieted down as we settled into a more "normal" FIRE lifestyle. And I think that she might be getting bored (though it suits me just fine). We still make a point of doing things together. Even now, with all the tension, we still go hiking and biking together at least once a week. But I can tell that she misses the excitement of the Bay Area. There is simply not as much to do around here.
The other thing is that her grandfather died in his late 40's of a heart attack. It has always been a source of angst for her and I think that she wants to have fun now because she is coming up on that age and she fears that it will happen to her too (it was a big driver for her decision to FIRE when she did).
I must admit that I have a hard time with the "do your thing and I'll do mine". Up until now, we have been like 2 peas in a pod and have always done everything together. I feel strange about the idea of traveling solo for example. But I am heartened to see that it works for a lot of people here. I hope that we can regain our individualities without breaking the bond between us.
She is definitely adjusting to FIRE. The first 2 years after she retired, we lived in San Francisco and we were doing a lot of exploring and traveling. After we moved to the South, we spent a lot of time renovating the house and that kept us very busy. But since the beginning of this year, things have quieted down as we settled into a more "normal" FIRE lifestyle. And I think that she might be getting bored (though it suits me just fine). We still make a point of doing things together. Even now, with all the tension, we still go hiking and biking together at least once a week. But I can tell that she misses the excitement of the Bay Area. There is simply not as much to do around here.
The other thing is that her grandfather died in his late 40's of a heart attack. It has always been a source of angst for her and I think that she wants to have fun now because she is coming up on that age and she fears that it will happen to her too (it was a big driver for her decision to FIRE when she did).
I must admit that I have a hard time with the "do your thing and I'll do mine". Up until now, we have been like 2 peas in a pod and have always done everything together. I feel strange about the idea of traveling solo for example. But I am heartened to see that it works for a lot of people here. I hope that we can regain our individualities without breaking the bond between us.