Trophy spouses are often expensive. You have acquisition costs, maintenance costs, then, if warranted, disposition costs. Some folks approach real estate this way and opt to rent rather than buy. Other folks approach relationships in the same way.
+1000Is there some sort of rent to own or lease purchase option?
I don't think that pattern is unique or limited to Asian families, it is a common pattern among American families as well, including my own.In a lot of Asian families, there are 3 generations (as the story goes):
1) poor and uneducated. Works hard and puts all their resources (no retirement savings) into their kids so that the kids may have a better life
2) educated and working, doing well. The kids have a paid for education and successful career. They live frugally like their parents and know the value of money. They earn enough to help the parents and support their kids. They build wealth.
3) spoiled. They grow up with ample resources and parents always helping out and leading the way to success. They don’t build on the momentum of the second generation but instead spend it. And so the cycle repeats.
From m y post #19:
Not that all these kinds of marriage/arrangements are like this with Filipino gals, but it seems to be a usual theme as I recall.
Yes! My experience is that while it is still a bigger part of Non-U.S. "social-think" it has indeed been a part of this and any other culture. I am not married either and this is one enormous reason. I decided at some point if I ever got married she'd have to be an orphan.I'm perplexed by all of the cultural content in this thread. Back in the old days, at least, you married a family, not a person. If your spouse has significant family baggage, that baggage often becomes your baggage.
I have never, and will never, get married, so I can freely pontificate upon a subject with which I have no practical experience. Hey, it's the internet!
Yes! My experience is that while it is still a bigger part of Non-U.S. "social-think" it has indeed been a part of this and any other culture. I am not married either and this is one enormous reason. I decided at some point if I ever got married she'd have to be an orphan.
For those of you who are single in retirement, do you sometimes feel lonely?
I ask this question, because, as a married person, I sometimes wish I could be left alone. But in most times, I feel that I need a person around.
You can find data points to fit any thesis that you want, that's called confirmation bias. There are also people who are married and are very happily married and would not want to live any other way and would get married all over again in a hearbeat.I have known very few people like myself who have said "Gee, I wish I had gotten married." I know that's a small demographic since most people are or were married, so maybe there's not enough data points for a fair analysis. On the other hand I have seen that the world is full of married people who say if they had it to do over again they would not have gotten married. And that is a large enough set of data points.
Is there some sort of rent to own or lease purchase option?
You can find data points to fit any thesis that you want, that's called confirmation bias. There are also people who are married and are very happily married and would not want to live any other way and would get married all over again in a hearbeat.
In a lot of Asian families, there are 3 generations (as the story goes):
1) poor and uneducated. Works hard and puts all their resources (no retirement savings) into their kids so that the kids may have a better life
2) educated and working, doing well. The kids have a paid for education and successful career. They live frugally like their parents and know the value of money. They earn enough to help the parents and support their kids. They build wealth.
3) spoiled. They grow up with ample resources and parents always helping out and leading the way to success. They don’t build on the momentum of the second generation but instead spend it. And so the cycle repeats.
In many Asian cultures, the kids are the retirement plan. They invest all their money into their kids. It isn’t like the US where the parents are always focused on themselves. Asian families can be very selfless. The OP has issues with the reciprocal nature of that.
There are cultural differences between the asian country stereotypes. But the stories of a young poor asian immigrant girl marrying an older geeky white guy are all very similar. I don’t know what the OP was expecting here?
I know many who are very happy because they have communicated and accepted each other’s position.
Edit: I think the most telling is his intent to divorce her a few years down the road, when it is most financially beneficial for him (she cooks/cleans/romance while he saves them he dumps her with nothing after 5 years right before the prenup ends)
That smell has been evident from the very first post. But the thread is amusing in any event.Hmmm... three whole days without a post from OP. And that one was only his 2nd, just 15 minutes after he started the thread.
Seems to me that if someone starts a thread asking for advice about something as important and consequential as a possible divorce and how it might affect their FIRE plans, they would actually take the time to be an active (or at least occasional) participant in the thread. Something smells very fishy here.
Hmmm... three whole days without a post from OP. And that one was only his 2nd, just 15 minutes after he started the thread.
Seems to me that if someone starts a thread asking for advice about something as important and consequential as a possible divorce and how it might affect their FIRE plans, they would actually take the time to be an active (or at least occasional) participant in the thread. Something smells very fishy here.
Hmmm... three whole days without a post from OP. And that one was only his 2nd, just 15 minutes after he started the thread.
Seems to me that if someone starts a thread asking for advice about something as important and consequential as a possible divorce and how it might affect their FIRE plans, they would actually take the time to be an active (or at least occasional) participant in the thread. Something smells very fishy here.
There are many young male "Mongrels who ain't got a penny, sniffing for tidbits like you on the ground" (to quote Elton John)
Prenups don’t end.
For those of you who are single in retirement, do you sometimes feel lonely?
I ask this question, because, as a married person, I sometimes wish I could be left alone. But in most times, I feel that I need a person around.