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We will be having our traditional Thanksgiving with immediatate Family and grandkids. Our girls and one of our son in laws work in the medical field. My wife and I stayed away a couple of months but life moves on. Wrong or right we will deal with it as it comes.
 
The US case counts have increased significantly since Oct 1, and are now rapidly approaching the all-time highs seen in July and August. I think it’s very likely we see a larger outbreak than before, just in time for the family holiday gatherings. Timing couldn’t be worse - a major surge, than an even worse outbreak due to holiday family gatherings held during the worst surge already.
 
It will only be my DH and myself for Thanksgiving. I bought a small turkey breast and will see what sides that he wants me to cook and we will definitely be having pumpkin pie.

We missed our nephew's wedding on October 10, 2020. My brother sent me a picture and no one was wearing masks in the picture, so I was glad we did not go. We had such a good time at his sister's wedding several years ago and we really hated to miss his wedding.
 
Dreamer said:
It will only be my DH and myself for Thanksgiving. I bought a small turkey breast and will see what sides that he wants me to cook and we will definitely be having pumpkin pie.

We missed our nephew's wedding on October 10, 2020. My brother sent me a picture and no one was wearing masks in the picture, so I was glad we did not go. We had such a good time at his sister's wedding several years ago and we really hated to miss his wedding.
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We knew that over half of our family would not be wearing masks during any of the upcoming celebrations... My eldest niece was challenging me about us not removing masks for pics. I told her neither she nor anyone else is the boss of me, so good luck with that.

I'm sad, but not sad enough for one of us to die like DH's best friend almost did. He was in the hospital for over a month and is having to do massive phys. therapy.

Just avoiding my Mom as she flits in & out of her winter home will be enough of a challenge. I already told her that we'll have to text each other rather than slip off to whisper about DH and the silly things he does & says. I'm not getting that close to anyone's mouth.
 
I’m planning to do what we always do. Have our son over for dinner. Would be just the three of us. Our son is 32 years old. We are 64 and 66.

But- a large community/group of people that we are part of ( all ages) are thinking of all of us bringing our families together for one big celebration, so that option is on the table for us as well.
 
We have already gotten together several times in the past few months with no issues.
 
We are looking forward to hosting our usual family Thanksgiving.....Our home is in the Western North Carolina mountains and our daughter from Orlando and son from DC (with his girlfriend) will join us along with both our DMs. They are 80 plus and one is traveling from Florida and another from Virginia.

We cherish the holidays and we have no worries......

no fear here.....
 
mitchjav said:
Just heard from my sister, who traditionally hosts Thanksgiving, that this year there will be no large gathering. Her daughter, who has two middle school age children is cautious about crowds during the pandemic and she's not sure if her son and his family will make the trip. So, this year will be different - just the immediate family and maybe a virtual drop-in with the extended family.



Anyone else seeing changes with their Thanksgiving this year?
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Is this a serious question? My family comes from both coasts to celebrate Thanksgiving in Ohio. We all had a zoom call to quickly confirm what we all already knew. It’s off, no traveling. Everyone have a small gathering at home with their kids. No brainer.
 
I spoke with my wife yesterday about the upcoming holidays and it turns out i will be getting a turkey breast just for the 2 of us for Thanksgiving. So that means turkey sandwiches for me :dance: Every cloud needs a silver lining.

It looks like I will be making Gumbo for Christmas dinner to be packed for take-away by the daughter and family when they stop by for a distant visit. Then Christmas will also be just the 2 of us.


Maybe next Thanksgiving and Christmas will be different.


Cheers
 
I can't convince DW that having Thanksgiving (and Christmas) for 10 is risky.

So I'm convincing the other 8 people that these gatherings would be risky. So far I've convinced 3. I think I can convince the rest. Hopefully DW sees the light and cancels. If not, I'll have a lot to eat since she would be cooking for 10 with only us 2 showing up.
 
We dropped the 5 hour drive to see DD's family (4 grandchildren ages 6-13), with plans to come for Christmas. They're all in private very well controlled schools in the DC area, the father works from home and Mom just ventures out for necessities. At this time it seems relatively well controlled for Christmas, but I'm reserving judgement for that trip. We're (me more than DW) really resisting what I call Covid Creep, a general relaxing of caution from fatigue.
 
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We're (me more than DW) really resisting what I call Covid Creep, a general relaxing of caution from fatigue.
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This is only one of a number of factors that almost certainly will increase the spread of Covid in the coming months, likely creating a huge spike.

When you combine Covid fatigue with closer proximity of people due to colder weather, the return of many kids to school, and the inability of many families to resist getting together for the holidays, the outlook isn't pretty.

I sincerely hope I'm wrong in my outlook.
 
The plan is to have Thanksgiving here with both of our sons, DIL and grandson, my sister and BIL and nephew.

Our DIL has started working in a day care center which opens her up to contact with a lot more people. The day care center is practicing all kinds of precautions, etc but I still see this as an extension of our contacts. We will still see her and our son and our grandson because I just can't bring myself to cut them out of our contacts.

If DIL continues to work there (which is iffy as she was not thrilled with her first week) I will tell my sister the situation and give her the option to not come. My sister is 68 and BIL is 73 and they have been very careful with their contacts. They had us over for dinner during the summer where we were outside with another couple and we each had our own table. It worked out so nicely and it was so much fun to be with other people and I want to reciprocate on Thanksgiving. And she had it last year so it's my turn!

My nephew, her son, works at a grocery store so he also is out and about with the public.
 
REWahoo said:
This is only one of a number of factors that almost certainly will increase the spread of Covid in the coming months, likely creating a huge spike.

When you combine Covid fatigue with closer proximity of people due to colder weather, the return of many kids to school, and the inability of many families to resist getting together for the holidays, the outlook isn't pretty.

I sincerely hope I'm wrong in my outlook.
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I agree. I think we live in the same region and 4th of July was a huge spike. Now I'm picturing extended families gathering for massive Thanksgiving and glad I won't be in TX 10 days later for that spike.
 
REWahoo said:
This is only one of a number of factors that almost certainly will increase the spread of Covid in the coming months, likely creating a huge spike.

When you combine Covid fatigue with closer proximity of people due to colder weather, the return of many kids to school, and the inability of many families to resist getting together for the holidays, the outlook isn't pretty.

I sincerely hope I'm wrong in my outlook.
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+1


Cheers!
 
Ronstar said:
I can't convince DW that having Thanksgiving (and Christmas) for 10 is risky.

So I'm convincing the other 8 people that these gatherings would be risky. So far I've convinced 3. I think I can convince the rest. Hopefully DW sees the light and cancels. If not, I'll have a lot to eat since she would be cooking for 10 with only us 2 showing up.
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Wow, that’s quite a job you’ve got cut out for yourself there!
 
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REWahoo said:
This is only one of a number of factors that almost certainly will increase the spread of Covid in the coming months, likely creating a huge spike.

When you combine Covid fatigue with closer proximity of people due to colder weather, the return of many kids to school, and the inability of many families to resist getting together for the holidays, the outlook isn't pretty.

I sincerely hope I'm wrong in my outlook.
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I’m definitely seeing regular folks quoted in articles saying something to the effect of “We’ve done all this social distancing and staying home for months now, I’ve just gotta have my Thanksgiving get together!”

So that’s their reward for being “good” maybe? Throwing caution to the wind? Shared meals, especially indoors are risky. If numbers were way down because people had contained it sufficiently, this might have been doable. Not a good idea when things are already getting worse.

I think the dramatic ramp up from Oct 1 is illustrating Covid fatigue.
 
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REWahoo said:
This is only one of a number of factors that almost certainly will increase the spread of Covid in the coming months, likely creating a huge spike.

When you combine Covid fatigue with closer proximity of people due to colder weather, the return of many kids to school, and the inability of many families to resist getting together for the holidays, the outlook isn't pretty.

I sincerely hope I'm wrong in my outlook.
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Is your name Dr. Michael Osterholm? :)
That is almost exactly what he said today on the PBS Newshour.
transcript: https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/d...emic-is-approaching-says-public-health-expert
 
I have a problem

My sister (the nurse practioner biker) wants to come for Thanksgiving. She actually called me and stated she wasn't having people over. She 'could call friends but wanted to go to family first'. Here's my problem: she never socially distanced, just started wearing masks when not at home, and eats meat. We are vegetarian or vegan, will do a 5k, and not mix outside our pod. Yes it's large (10 people) but it's been just us for 7 months.

In a normal year I could ask her ... but i know she'll bring her son, his girlfriend, a few others. So that makes it our pod + 6

Just not feeling it
 
REWahoo said:
You found me out, eh?

I don't think you need to be an epidemiologist to see what is happening and recognize the worst is yet to come.
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I actually had a course in epidemiology and I have no clue whether worst is behind or ahead. Maybe both? YMMV
 
Had planned for it to be just the two of us, our DD, and her friend for Thanksgiving. But BIL and his DW have been wanting to visit since we moved into our new house here in TX in June 2019 (various delays - death in family, COVID-19).

So, BIL "told" us he and his DW are visiting us for EIGHT days around Thanksgiving, flying in from CA. I've known the two of them for 42 years (I met them before I met my DW), but I don't want them doing this. Beyond dealing with COVID-19, we're supposed to pick them up from the airport and drive them around, plus have them stay at our house.

The latter is a big issue as we only have our DD's old twin bed on a kid's bed frame, not sturdy enough to hold two adults. Also, our 12 year-old cat, who I documented here as having some dementia symptoms, will randomly urinate outside the litter box. The spare room twin bed has been victim to a few of those episodes.

This is a nightmare waiting to happen.
 
gayl said:
I have a problem. My sister (the nurse practioner biker) wants to come for Thanksgiving...
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I think this sort of issue is going to result in a lot of infections in folks across the country. Not just the pushy sib who wants to come, but the wife who wants to host when the husband doesn't, or the in-laws who simply insist. Or you show up to what was a group of 6 and cousin with 3 teenagers makes a pop in. A lot of people will get sick because they don't want to make anyone else mad at them.

Understandable, it's often very hard to say No to family. The kindest thing is not to put someone in that position at all.

"Hopefully next year!"
 
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