Housewife51
Confused about dryer sheets
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- Apr 26, 2021
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Hi all --
My husband retired in 2020 at 60, and I've been a stay-at-home mom and housewife for 28 of our 31 year marriage. He's happy as can be about retiring after 35 years of working for the same company.
I worked full-time until we had our first child 28 years ago, and I worked part-time from 2003 to 2013. We have two other children ages 25 and 23, and the youngest is still in college for which we are paying.
Our finances have always been mingled, including the minimal amount of money I earned with my part-time jobs. We have plenty of money for retirement, but we don't share the same ideas about how to invest that money. My husband recently announced that his pension and 401K are now "his" money only, and I get no say in how it's handled. That was a bit of a gut-punch, because it makes me feel like my contributions to running a household and raising our children were worth nothing.
I'm not worried about running out of money as I will inherit half my parent's estate soon and it will be around $3 million, but to be told that suddenly we have "his money" and "my money" is really disconcerting.
I guess I never gave much thought to my own "retirement," since a housewife doesn't really ever get to retire, but suddenly it seems we don't have similar goals. This wasn't what I expected from retirement.
My husband retired in 2020 at 60, and I've been a stay-at-home mom and housewife for 28 of our 31 year marriage. He's happy as can be about retiring after 35 years of working for the same company.
I worked full-time until we had our first child 28 years ago, and I worked part-time from 2003 to 2013. We have two other children ages 25 and 23, and the youngest is still in college for which we are paying.
Our finances have always been mingled, including the minimal amount of money I earned with my part-time jobs. We have plenty of money for retirement, but we don't share the same ideas about how to invest that money. My husband recently announced that his pension and 401K are now "his" money only, and I get no say in how it's handled. That was a bit of a gut-punch, because it makes me feel like my contributions to running a household and raising our children were worth nothing.
I'm not worried about running out of money as I will inherit half my parent's estate soon and it will be around $3 million, but to be told that suddenly we have "his money" and "my money" is really disconcerting.
I guess I never gave much thought to my own "retirement," since a housewife doesn't really ever get to retire, but suddenly it seems we don't have similar goals. This wasn't what I expected from retirement.