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A recent thread on financial assistance for in-laws got me thinking about financial assistance for my one living parent.
DM is in her 80's with 600k in investments, house paid off, lives on no more than 36k a year (including income and property taxes), has tricare for medical, receives SS, no pension, and was/is financial astute not to fall for scams and is cautious with money (although QVC does receive its fair share of $).
My DB (mid 50s) FIRE'd this year. He spends more freely with his money (takes cruises, goes to more sporting events, drives a Porsche) than I do (no cruises, enjoy staying at home, sporting events are great on TV, and drive a 10 year old car). I hope to be part of the FIRE class of 2020 or 2021 (in my early 50s). He has a SO and no kids. I'm single and no kids.
Has anyone else sat down with their siblings and made tentative arrangements for the future regarding caring for an aging parent? I realize that the current state of financial affairs for DM, DB and myself could change and any plan we make would have to be subject to revision. I'm wondering if better to address it ahead of time versus trying to solve while staring at a stack of bills.
Three years ago DB and SO paid for a new dishwasher for DM. I was never asked to contribute nor do I feel that anyone's behavior has indicated that I've shirked any duties. I certainly don't feel guilty about not contributing as up to this point I've spent more time over the decades with DM and DD (deceased) than DB did.
So, did anyone have a plan with siblings in place for caring for aging parent before the plan was needed?
DM is in her 80's with 600k in investments, house paid off, lives on no more than 36k a year (including income and property taxes), has tricare for medical, receives SS, no pension, and was/is financial astute not to fall for scams and is cautious with money (although QVC does receive its fair share of $).
My DB (mid 50s) FIRE'd this year. He spends more freely with his money (takes cruises, goes to more sporting events, drives a Porsche) than I do (no cruises, enjoy staying at home, sporting events are great on TV, and drive a 10 year old car). I hope to be part of the FIRE class of 2020 or 2021 (in my early 50s). He has a SO and no kids. I'm single and no kids.
Has anyone else sat down with their siblings and made tentative arrangements for the future regarding caring for an aging parent? I realize that the current state of financial affairs for DM, DB and myself could change and any plan we make would have to be subject to revision. I'm wondering if better to address it ahead of time versus trying to solve while staring at a stack of bills.
Three years ago DB and SO paid for a new dishwasher for DM. I was never asked to contribute nor do I feel that anyone's behavior has indicated that I've shirked any duties. I certainly don't feel guilty about not contributing as up to this point I've spent more time over the decades with DM and DD (deceased) than DB did.
So, did anyone have a plan with siblings in place for caring for aging parent before the plan was needed?