Their Mother is busy at a high powered job and that's your ammo against her? Better take a good luck at what you really want before you go down that road.
No, that's not my ammo against her. If she's going to continuously leave the kids at our doorstep to advance her career, that's her choice. It's also our choice to take the kids in and house them and care for them and love them. However, it is not our responsibility to pay child support to their mother and also bear the extra burden of keeping the kids for extended times that are not documented or required per their agreement. I do not want to take the kids away from her. I want to have the actual events unfolding to be documented and legally binding. The way things are going now DH is paying support as if he was a part time uninvolved parent, which is not the case.