ivinsfan
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Your DW has oldest female child syndrome. She's just the right age for it. On the beach house thing, the only way people treat your house like a hotel for 20 years is if you let them do it. Parental care same deal.
At any time you and your DW could have skipped a year, started asking the guests to pitch in and do something. If you don't it's pretty much on you.
A lot of things can change when the last parent passes. If there is no outright conflict between the sibs I suggest your DW just quietly take a break without sending letters or saying anything dramatic. No need to burn bridges at this point. Now if a sib has been deliberately nasty or aggressive that's another thing. The decision is up to your DW of course.
At any time you and your DW could have skipped a year, started asking the guests to pitch in and do something. If you don't it's pretty much on you.
A lot of things can change when the last parent passes. If there is no outright conflict between the sibs I suggest your DW just quietly take a break without sending letters or saying anything dramatic. No need to burn bridges at this point. Now if a sib has been deliberately nasty or aggressive that's another thing. The decision is up to your DW of course.