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DH would also like us to find a low-cost handyman--he just ain't a handyman, never was, never will be.
But, there is no doubt that being retired is a plus in their minds. I was told by a female friend that the message signals two things; 1) the man has more free time to devote the the relationship and 2) the man probably has some money and a sense of financial responsibility.
I guess I'm lucky, because I have a great handyman - - a friend of Frank's family...
or 3) He was retired from his job as, out of all the workers there, he was the most out of touch. Due to the fact that he hasn't kept up with the times, cannot find new employment, so is sitting around eating cold beans from a can because he didn't save much while working.
Just playing devil's advocate
I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.
Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.
A. On the Internet, nobody knows if we are really married. (Something for people who use online dating services to think about).
Often men are looking for a caretaker/cook/mommie. If a guy cannot cook, is not comfortable keeping his own house or paying someone else to do it, or making his own social calendar and warm relationships, he is kind of up a creek without a woman. OTOH, many financially secure women will admit that the only thing they cannot easily find as needed is a low cost handyman. And that can be dealt with pretty well by moving to an apartment- often without the arguments, stalling, and unfinished projects that handy-boy sometimes leaves lying around.
So the tables are turned from when we were young, as long as the women in question are financially OK. Even young women often don't much want a husband, unless they plan on children.
We will have to get used to the idea that men in post-industrial society pretty much have to earn our companship on charm, or wit, or erudition or some other kind of schtick.
Ha
We frequent a local seafood restaurant that is also a hang out for older singles and what I have observed is that older guys have won the dating lottery . There are many more older single women than older guys .As long as the guy is semi decent and not a complete dud he has become a chic magnet .
All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...
I have never had a woman falsly represent herself as single when she was married.
That said, I was being humorous, and not meaning any real questioning of the fidelity of the membors of this message board.
.....and Dawg.....please darlin', I haven't had dinner yet...
I admit that I did feel a little taken aback when one of the retired men told me he lived in a fairly rundown apartment and didn't drive, and would take a taxi to meet me. I wondered if he was too poor for a car (and might expect to depend on me financially), or if he was an alcoholic and not allowed to drive. No second date potential there.
Awww come one.........you knew I was a hunk. You just didn't know how big of a hunk.
Maybe he was well to do and was practicing extreme LBYM.
I find it interesting the number of married people participating in a thread on dating while retired.
Maybe their spouses need to be more careful.
If you're going to tease the board with these tidbits, you should at least provide an address or a phone number to call for reservations...
One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.
Moemg said:
Maybe so.
An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.
omni
Redbugdave said:All a retired man has to do to get the women to fall over them, (for marriage), is to advertise that he has health insurance...
Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?
Maybe so.
An acquaintance of mine does the I.T. work for several online dating sites. He attends an online dating industry conference in Florida held every January. One of the statistics from that conference that he shared with me was 40% of the men on online dating sites are married.
omni
I am single and 44 and hope to retire at 50 so I have thought about this issues some. The vast majority of my friends, peers and people I will be running into will not be retired and not even close to being financially ready to do so. I am thinking women who I meet will assume I am "wealthy" if I am already retired.
While I will have fairly significant assets, that money will need to last 30 years so I do not plan to change my "spending" very significantly (though mortgage and child support will be done). In other words my lifestlye will seem fairly normal/routine, but that is precisly the reason I am "able" to retire early.
Which leads to what I think may be an issue for me. I am not going to have much money set aside for "dating" or taking care of somebody else's expenses. Essentially I am going to desire to date somebody who is financially independent and capable of taking care of themselves. Most women I meet right now, would not find that very attractive or appealing. They are looking for the man to bring something to the tables in terms of funding their existance/expenses. I think this means dating will be fairly limited in my early retirment future. Plus, how many people are going to be able and willing to jump in a RV and be gone for 3 months at a time?