Maybe she needs to spend some quality time with your dog?She had a little cushion going into this, but she can't afford for it to continue.
Maybe she needs to spend some quality time with your dog?She had a little cushion going into this, but she can't afford for it to continue.
Maybe she needs to spend some quality time with your dog?
I take him on weekends for visits. She loves that dog. Some of the other patients enjoy him as well, but there are a couple that head in the opposite direction when they see him coming down the hall. How could you not like this face?
My dad's care facility has 3-4 dogs wandering the halls. I don't know if they're pets of the staff, pets of the residents, or just neighborhood strays looking for handouts... but they're very popular and they have their favorite people.I take him on weekends for visits. She loves that dog. Some of the other patients enjoy him as well, but there are a couple that head in the opposite direction when they see him coming down the hall. How could you not like this face?
DH's mom was in a nursing home for several years that I just loved mostly because they had pets there. They had a couple of cats that wandered around inside and had a dog (didn't have free rein like the cats) and even a couple of birds. I love pets and one reason I would hate to ever be in even assisted living is that I can't imagine living without pets.
Maybe your mother could be persuaded that it's worth eating enough to keep body & soul together (perhaps with more tabasco sauce or curry powder) in order to have more quality dog/Dawg time.
Otherwise she may be trying to give people the impression that she no longer feels she has anything worth living for? It's hard (and not always socially acceptable) for that generation to admit so.
I do throw out those incentives, telling her when she gets strong, she will get to go home and Micah(my dog) will be by her side all day. My dog did stay with her a lot when I played golf. He would just lay around her house staying out of the way.
It's weird, the last couple of days she has actually eaten better. This morning I took her blueberry pancakes and bacon(we all know bacon is a cure all) and she ate all the bacon and 3/4 of the pancakes. But when she does eat that much, she slacks off at lunch. But did OK tonight. Even ate most of a piece of cheesecake I took her. Probably not getting enough down to gain weight, but she could maintain her weight if she would do as well every day.
So it's day by day. I've seen all this before. Just as soon as I think she may be turning the corner, she has a poor day getting food down.
Yes...indeed.You really are a great son ! Your Mom is so lucky !
You really are a great son ! Your Mom is so lucky !
Yes...indeed.
It isn't really how much she eats but whether or not what she eats brings joy.
Not only do you love her, participate in her well-being...you are her advocate.Aw thanks, but I'm not doing anything most here wouldn't do. ER gives me the luxury to have the time to do it.
The staff tells him most people just drop their relatives off at the nursing home and never come back.
I remember way back when Dear Abby & Ann Landers used to print letters containing impassioned pleas by care workers for the adult children to visit their parents/relatives in the care homes.Yes, I have been told many of the patient's relatives rarely stop by. That is sad.
BTW, I should have said she doesn't hurt while sitting up or resting in bed anymore. She rarely request pain med's now. But she does hurt while going through therapy. Which is to be expected. A long way to go in over coming those pains.
So I completely understand why some children aren't interested in visiting their parents in the care facility.
Yes..I feel haunted as well. I will see those faces again soon.I'm still haunted by many of the faces I saw in my mother in law's nursing home.
I hope I don't jinx my Mother's progress, but she has actually gained 2.5 lbs over the last 2 weeks. .......