ERD50
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I'm the type that does not like to be "surprised". I want to know as much as possible about a procedure that will be done to me.
That's how I feel too. I can deal with something better if I understand the bounds. Not knowing freaks me out 10x worse.
But not everyone feels as we do. DW does not want to know anything, it just makes her worry the whole time leading up to it.
They really would have a difficult job if they told you all the details.
ratface, maybe you can learn from this to make the future visits a bit more comfortable. Maybe talk with the docs and staff and try to communicate to them just how much you want to know beforehand. Like I said above, people are different in this regard and the staff is probably a little numb to it all. But if you inquire, that might trigger them to respond in a helpful way.
I don't quite accept the "ask and you shall receive" proverb, but I've found that if you don't ask, you usually don't get anything!
Good luck with the upcoming treatments, sounds like you have lots of good reasons to be optimistic.
-ERD50