thevagabond
Confused about dryer sheets
Hello ER Board,
I'm new, and was referred to ask my question here. I'm not sure this is the best spot.
That said, I am wondering if any of you have retired at very different times from your significant other? What were challenges? What made it work? What was terrible?
My situation is that my wife and I are workaholics. I work a job I'd love to leave and pursue new things. She has her own store she loves. We are both the same age in our mid-40's. We have done rather well financially. She is in better health than I.
Before FIRE was FIRE or any conception of understanding of marriage, I realized my best interests weren't going to pay the bills and instead opted for the safest, highest paying route. In this case...accounting.
From labor, I would generally make a bit more than my wife, but not tremendously so. Covid was tough on her business last year, but it also closed all of her competition, so she's suddenly having a banner year. On a net cash basis, she's going to pass me even as I have a record year as well.
She loves her store. She dropped down to 6 days a week about a decade ago to give us time, but she truly loves her store. Her customers love her. Her interest is fine clothes and looking good. It's her passion. In her store she confidently tells stories, jokes and shares gossip. Wheras at parties she tends to be a wallflower. I don't want to take that from her.
But at the same time, I'd like to do a whole lot of something else. I'm game for about anything that doesn't involve an unpicked boss, tight schedules and working on inefficient systems. She's given an initial ok...though she wants a few more years....but I want to ask...have any of you retired at vastly different times and it's been ok? Literally I could see her working another 15-20 years. Was there ever a sense of resentment on the non-working partner? Would love to hear some of what worked or didn't work.
I'm new, and was referred to ask my question here. I'm not sure this is the best spot.
That said, I am wondering if any of you have retired at very different times from your significant other? What were challenges? What made it work? What was terrible?
My situation is that my wife and I are workaholics. I work a job I'd love to leave and pursue new things. She has her own store she loves. We are both the same age in our mid-40's. We have done rather well financially. She is in better health than I.
Before FIRE was FIRE or any conception of understanding of marriage, I realized my best interests weren't going to pay the bills and instead opted for the safest, highest paying route. In this case...accounting.
From labor, I would generally make a bit more than my wife, but not tremendously so. Covid was tough on her business last year, but it also closed all of her competition, so she's suddenly having a banner year. On a net cash basis, she's going to pass me even as I have a record year as well.
She loves her store. She dropped down to 6 days a week about a decade ago to give us time, but she truly loves her store. Her customers love her. Her interest is fine clothes and looking good. It's her passion. In her store she confidently tells stories, jokes and shares gossip. Wheras at parties she tends to be a wallflower. I don't want to take that from her.
But at the same time, I'd like to do a whole lot of something else. I'm game for about anything that doesn't involve an unpicked boss, tight schedules and working on inefficient systems. She's given an initial ok...though she wants a few more years....but I want to ask...have any of you retired at vastly different times and it's been ok? Literally I could see her working another 15-20 years. Was there ever a sense of resentment on the non-working partner? Would love to hear some of what worked or didn't work.