Some of the comments in the linked thread
https://www.early-retirement.org/forums/f29/growing-risk-to-america-s-seniors-themselves-102152.html
suggesting that family members are the most frequent abusers of seniors kind of struck a nerve.
While there are a lot of manipulative, greedy family members
there are also a lot of sons and daughters being advised by Drs, lawyers, bankers, elder care atty's, and elder care consultants to do the following:
* "hide his accounts", "take his money and put it where he can't find it"
* "take him grocery shopping and then instead dump him off at the assisted living facility"
* "therapeutic lying" - similar to telling a 3 year old the candy machine is broken so they can't have any today.
* "take over all his finances, drain his checking account, and cancel his credit cards so that he does not have access to any funds to pay his exploitative home health aide"
Viewed from another angle, all of those activities would appear to be "greedy family members ripping off dear old dad", when in fact that is what the professional elder care community is advising us to do.
While it matters if the appropriated funds are then used for the care of the senior or the family members instead used it to buy a boat, without hearing both sides of the story it is a completely wrong picture to assume that families forced into "tough love" to care for a senior are ripping them off.
The same goes for families that don't visit their parents once placed in a facility. When dear old dad tells anybody and everybody that they never want to talk to their son again, its kinda hard to voluntarily go spend a Sunday afternoon with them.
Sorry for the rant.
https://www.early-retirement.org/forums/f29/growing-risk-to-america-s-seniors-themselves-102152.html
suggesting that family members are the most frequent abusers of seniors kind of struck a nerve.
While there are a lot of manipulative, greedy family members
there are also a lot of sons and daughters being advised by Drs, lawyers, bankers, elder care atty's, and elder care consultants to do the following:
* "hide his accounts", "take his money and put it where he can't find it"
* "take him grocery shopping and then instead dump him off at the assisted living facility"
* "therapeutic lying" - similar to telling a 3 year old the candy machine is broken so they can't have any today.
* "take over all his finances, drain his checking account, and cancel his credit cards so that he does not have access to any funds to pay his exploitative home health aide"
Viewed from another angle, all of those activities would appear to be "greedy family members ripping off dear old dad", when in fact that is what the professional elder care community is advising us to do.
While it matters if the appropriated funds are then used for the care of the senior or the family members instead used it to buy a boat, without hearing both sides of the story it is a completely wrong picture to assume that families forced into "tough love" to care for a senior are ripping them off.
The same goes for families that don't visit their parents once placed in a facility. When dear old dad tells anybody and everybody that they never want to talk to their son again, its kinda hard to voluntarily go spend a Sunday afternoon with them.
Sorry for the rant.