24601NoMore
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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+1 on this.... you can give recommendations to your siblings and parents but there is no ability to make them take it...
IMO you offered to help and was rejected... end of story... you can still support her and hope for a good outcome but I would let her continue to do what she wants.... she IS a grown woman...
Technically, I offered to Mom since I did not want to mention any of this to little sis 2 days after getting such a horrible diagnosis. It was Mom who basically told me "worry about it AFTER her surgery" which IMHO is absolutely stupid, horrible and potentially financially devastating advice.
That said, I know sister. And I know she LIKELY (not 100% for sure - maybe this will be different) won't really want to "deal" with any of it. That's why I offered (albeit, to Mom) to offload all of this and manage it all for sis.
With all the "hoops" this company we both have has in their plans, it's going to be a potential minefield to navigate. Just look at my own experience with a simple MRI - DENIED! (even though it was fully "covered" in the plan) unless I jumped through their ridiculous hoops of doing 6 weeks of PT first..
Bottom line - unless you're VERY fortunate to have some super gold plated plan, it's incumbent on every single person that has healthcare coverage today to know what your plan requires of you as a member. And if you don't, you're very likely to get absolutely slaughtered in terms of denials, refusals, delays and other nonsense that just makes the entire experience of dealing with healthcare in 2022 a real nightmare. My pre-ER job involved writing a lot of very lengthy, very complex contracts and working with a lot of lawyers. I have a ton of experience writing and reading contracts. And even I find reading through the insurance company declarations of coverage darn near indecipherable - not to mention incomplete. (For instance - that requirement for 6 weeks of PT before MRI approval? Not even listed in the docs. IIRC, they got around that fact by some more open-ended vague language about "potential other pre-approval requirements which the Plan may require in their sole discretion at any time") or some other open ended catch-phrase..