I thought the MND idea was that putting your kid in a higher class neighborhood than they could afford without assistance was the problem. So maybe a better idea is to wait for the house purchase (unassisted), and follow it with the gift to get out of the PMI zone.
It's been a while since I've read TMND, but from what I remember the problem is that regular gifting of moderate to large amounts put the kids in a frame of mind where they could rely on the gifting to get by and didn't have to work as hard or develop productive personal and financial habits.
I struggle with this as I don't want the adverse effects described by TMND, and I believe those could happen. On the other hand, I have more money than I need and nobody or nothing else I'd rather give it to. One strategy in general that I think works is to make the gifts unexpected and/or random. So they still benefit the offspring, but the offspring probably won't choose to rely on it.
Would anyone consider a whole life policy for "evening out" purposes? I like the idea of dividing the estate equally among heirs. I was thinking that making the child with lower educational costs the beneficiary would be a way to give tax free in a delayed way without exceeding the threshold for gift tax issues.
Whole life policies can be good for funding estate taxes and relatively immediate cash needs if there are any.
Do note that if the owner of the policy is the person who passes away, then the policy proceeds are included in the value of the estate, and thus can cause estate taxes due. The common way around that is an ILIT.
Personally I am not trying to even things out by having one kid get X while another kid gets Y. The reason for me is that I would be concerned that X might grow or decrease in value differently than Y, and that would leave me with two unpleasant choices: (a) constantly fiddling with the beneficiary designations and percentages so that it's equal, or (b) not doing so and having the values drift apart and result in an unintended unequal distribution.
I just do the simple thing and divide everything three ways. Roth IRA? Split three ways. House? Sold and proceeds split three ways. Checking account? Split three ways. If I had a whole life policy, it'd be in an ILIT and the proceeds would be split three ways.
I try not to let things get too far out of whack in the first place. If they did get out of whack for whatever reason, I'd try to rectify the situation ASAP while I am alive.
I have been contributing to our 11 grandkids 529 accounts since their births. The eldest is now in college but doesn’t seem to have a lot of motivation to work. Her mother (stepchild) reached out to me asking how to set up the distribution. I have been compelled to hold off until the money would be appreciated and told her I had decided to gift it to her as a graduation gift. Is this possible or do the fees have to be credited for active college expenses?
Does anyone have other ideas how they have handled 529 distributions?
You can withdraw from a 529 to pay for qualified higher education expenses. There is currently no time limit, so as long as they were not used for other education credits or deductions, you could withdraw from the 529 tax-free for your GD's college expenses even after she graduates.
There is even a new provision in the tax laws that allows for tax-free withdrawal to pay off college loans (up to $10K I believe), so if GD ends up with a student loan you could use that provision.
Any withdrawal from your 529 for your GC's college expenses would have to be reported on the FAFSA as non-taxed student income. If you're worried about that, just wait until the college student has two years or less left; due to the timing of things it won't affect their aid.
I have three in college now and am trying to end up with 529 balances of $0 the day the last one graduates. It's a constantly moving target, and I'll end up a bit wrong one way or the other.
Leftovers can generally be transferred to 529s for your other grandkids if you want, so you can roll it down from grandkid to grandkid as they go through.
You would have to pay a 10% penalty doing it that way. Can you collect copies of tuition receipts and other eligible expenses and pull the money out then, up to the amount of the receipt? You could also change the beneficiaries and use the funds for someone else who is more motivated.
Legally you can. Practically it's just a matter of working it out with the student, and maybe the student's parent to get a copy of the records, and then being organized enough to keep track of the paperwork.