Bestwifeever
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Between Uber/Lyft (now in many cities) and autonomous cars (well proven by then) and our greater familiarity/acceptance of them, [-]there's a very good chance[/-] I'm certain we won't have to face this dilemma when we get old.That was a great outcome. I was through it a couple of times myself and it isn't easy for them to give up the driving.
I hope I can be cooperative when my turn comes around. It will be a hard thing to do. Glad all worked so well for you and your dad.
Except driving privileges come with a responsibility. The DMV has a vision test, you don't get to decide that you are still safe unless you pass it. We are (supposed to be) a nation of laws.
Personal hot button for me - years ago, I was hit by a big old Buick, it blew right through a stop sign at an exit ramp from a main road, probably still going the 50 mph speed limit of that road. It was a blind intersection to me, no way I could stop in time.
I hit the seat belt so hard (no air bag in this car in 1988), man, it was like a really big sadistic guy just swung a baseball bat smack across my chest. Got knocked unconscious, came to at the side of the road with my left hand bent back like a pretzel. That hurt like hell as well.
As 'luck' would have it, we ended up next to each other in curtained areas in the ER, and I overheard his family say something to him about "OK, Dad, that's it - now you are done driving". The context seemed like they had had the conversation with him before.
I spent the night in ICU, another week in the hospital with bruised ribs, a bruise all the way across my chest from the seat belt, a cast for that wrist, barely able to get out of bed and walk, awful aches and pains making it hard to get any sleep at all for weeks. Took months to get anywhere back to normal - then physical therapy, and years of other problems with my back and knees, and my wrist will never be fully recovered. DW had to look after me a lot for a while.
No, you don't get to decide that you can drive if the DMV is going to say no. That is just so self-centered and arrogant it makes we want to spit!
-ERD50
Again, we're pursuing:
- Making him understand he may be personally liable, insurance invalid or reduced. We know he wants to maintain his estate to pass to my sister.
- He has an eye doc appt Thursday, but we're not hopeful. Just learned he had to get his optometrist (different than this week) involved to keep his license 2 years ago, and was told the he wouldn't approve next time.
Unless he has an active passport.One more detail that no one has mentioned, ID. If the driver's licence lapses I am not confident that he has what he needs to go through airport security. Take him to DMV and get him an ID card.
One more detail that no one has mentioned, ID. If the driver's licence lapses I am not confident that he has what he needs to go through airport security. Take him to DMV and get him an ID card.
Consumer Reports said:Mile for mile, the crash rate for drivers ages 16 and 17, for example, is almost nine times as high as that for middle-aged drivers. People 80 and older are involved in 5.5 times as many fatal crashes per mile driven as middle-aged drivers.
Of course there comes an advanced age for each individual where they're probably more of a hazard than other causes. And I can't think of a more reliable way to check than Birthday license renewals. The laws in TX seem reasonable.
The manager of my Dad's assisted living told us that the driver's license could still be used as ID, the expiration part is for the driving, not the identification. She didn't seem to think Dad needed to get a state ID instead.There may be other situations where State issued ID is requested (I experienced this when signing in for health care), he shouldn't carry around his passport. Agree, using your passport for air travel ID is great.
I have long believed that when a driver's license expires (about every 4 years) no matter their age the holder should have to take the entire test, written and practical, all over again and re-qualify from scratch. I think Germany does this, among other countries. Airplane pilots and boat captains have to re-qualify at various intervals depending on their ratings, why should drivers be exempt?
Of course this would spark outcry and backlash since so many people seem to think they have a God-given Constitutional right to drive.
To keep things in perspective, it appears distracted driving, impaired driving and even teens cause more auto accidents/fatalities than the elderly.
Of course there comes an advanced age for each individual where they're probably more of a hazard than other causes. And I can't think of a more reliable way to check than Birthday license renewals. The laws in TX seem reasonable.
One of the problems with stats like that is the driver that was the 'cause' of the accident might not be IN the accident...
The slow driver on the freeway being an example... someone is coming up on the quickly and changes lanes and hits someone... but the slow driver is driving away.... or, they slow down, but then dart in to try and pass and also cause a wreck.... sure, that driver is to blame also, but if the slow driver was not there nothing would have happened...
Self driving Tesla? I guess a Tesla driver would still require a licence but the chance of an accident would be minimal...
Of course there are undoubtedly accidents where an impaired, distracted or teen driver was the cause without being in the accident. There's no evidence to suggest elderly drivers are unique in that respect. So largely a wash in 'the stats' - unless you have better stats to corroborate your POVs.One of the problems with stats like that is the driver that was the 'cause' of the accident might not be IN the accident...
The slow driver on the freeway being an example... someone is coming up on the quickly and changes lanes and hits someone... but the slow driver is driving away.... or, they slow down, but then dart in to try and pass and also cause a wreck.... sure, that driver is to blame also, but if the slow driver was not there nothing would have happened...+1. I have seen old, slow, confused drivers cause a number of accidents without actually being in them. Just tonight I saw an old guy that had turned into an oncoming turning lane by accident, then backed back out into the main (very busy) road. This caused people to have to slam on their brakes, and one of them backended another one. The cause of the accident slowly drove down the road a bit, then made his left hand turn from the correct turning lane. I don't think he even knew what happened behind him. I was one of the ones that stopped successfully, but it could have easily been me.