Sounds like you're fully agreeing with me OldShooter.
From my post:
That same trust might be viewed as "controlling" by another recipient. Or your son might view it as controlling if it was changed to be less flexible, have more constraints, etc.
Again, controlling or protective, a distinction without a difference.
Can’t say I agree. There is a distinction. How it is viewed or perceived depends on intent.
And honestly when it comes to your money you ultimately get to decide how to use it and protect it so as to help insure it’s used the way you intended.