tmm99
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I play volleyball. I am female, but I am competitive. It's OK if we don't win as long as we play a good game though. I just want to play my best when I'm on the court.
I hate it when I suck. I can be my own worst critic, but I try to focus more on improving my play (for the future) instead of beating myself up for my mistakes, etc. Sometimes I play awful and I bring that feeling home with me. I feel sucky for a few hours. I should stop doing that, but it's my nature to want to play well and when I don't, it bothers me.
So to answer the OP's question, I haven't tried to reduce my competitiveness. I don't think being competitive ever made me feel bad. I actually enjoy playing with and against people at my level or at a slightly higher level as people who play at a slightly higher level inspire me, but I don't want them to be too advanced as that would be stressful because I would feel like I'm dragging them down.
I hate it when I suck. I can be my own worst critic, but I try to focus more on improving my play (for the future) instead of beating myself up for my mistakes, etc. Sometimes I play awful and I bring that feeling home with me. I feel sucky for a few hours. I should stop doing that, but it's my nature to want to play well and when I don't, it bothers me.
So to answer the OP's question, I haven't tried to reduce my competitiveness. I don't think being competitive ever made me feel bad. I actually enjoy playing with and against people at my level or at a slightly higher level as people who play at a slightly higher level inspire me, but I don't want them to be too advanced as that would be stressful because I would feel like I'm dragging them down.