Franklin
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You are amazing, TT.
This thread took a real turn, didn't it? If all it took was money to save kids from addiction, any of us would postpone retirement.
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You are amazing, TT.
This thread took a real turn, didn't it? If all it took was money to save kids from addiction, any of us would postpone retirement.
I used to say to my kids: "Don't get upset over things that money can fix!"BW, if only money was the answer that would be easy. Thanks everyone for the support.
After jaw surgery, i was given a prescription for oxycontin. I stopped taking it after the second day and the remainder stayed in the medicine cabinet. We finally gave it to a relative that was recuperating from surgery. At the time, the market value was $10/pill!There was a knee replacement patient that refused to take anything because her son was addicted.. it really impressed me.
Years ago I read a book called "Letting Go of Your Adult Children". The author was the mother of 4 adult children. I think she was a clinical psychologist. 3 of the 4 children were very successful, independent professionals, and the 4th (maybe the baby, I don't remember) was an alcoholic drug addict. The author and her husband tried many times to help the child out, always with the promise from the child that he was going to turn his life around. Finally they had to give up on trying to help him.
It's a helpful book for those going through something like this. Not a happy place to be.
One aspect she touches on is the feeling of guilt parents have, often blaming themselves for some fault in their parenting, yet she points out that many of these stories have successful siblings, raised by the same parents.
She figured parents take more credit than they deserve when things turn out well, and more blame than they deserve when they don't.
https://www.amazon.com/Letting-Go-O...ay&sprefix=letting+go+of+our+a,aps,153&sr=8-2
I know two sisters, at 22 one graduated college got married and has a baby the other is living on the streets and addicted to drugs. Known these kids most of their lives and just don't understand how they turned out so differently.
Saddens us..
I know two sisters, at 22 one graduated college got married and has a baby the other is living on the streets and addicted to drugs. Known these kids most of their lives and just don't understand how they turned out so differently.
Saddens us..
Yep, we've got this same thing in our extended family. One kid turns out great, one gets by with "help", another dead in his 30's due to a complicated cocktail of personal challenges. Presumably same parents and upbringing, very different outcomes. Tough...
One of my pet peeves are people who have a several very nice, successful children, and make ignorant, derogatory comments about parents with troublesome children. They usually say things like "If Joe and Amy just used firm discipline they would not have a kid who runs away and uses drugs." Maybe, maybe not. A parent can do all the right things and still have a child who is a jerk. As parents we love our kids, jerks or perfect. But, as they mature the #1 Rule of Life comes into play - You can't control other people.
As a teacher I talked with many parents who had several nice children and one who seemed on the road to being a sociopath. I've seen fathers break down and cry in the counselor's office as they learned of the latest outrage committed by their child. There was no rhyme or reason to it that anybody could see.
... But to give credit where it is due, he was a very good burglar.
In my case, Al-Anon helped me raise 3 children (who chose “healthy” spouses) and stay married 34 years. I can’t imagine where I could have ended up.
Read the AA “Big Book” sometime. It was very eye opening.