I have no children, so you can discount my words accordingly. But I will tell you what I did last year when my neighbor's daughter went to college. She is a lovely girl who had been my leaf raking and lawn mowing assistant for her four years in high school. Personable and hardworking, but not entirely confident about going off to college. Her parents put on a graduation party for her, which the young wife and I attended. We gave her a check, of course, but I also gave her a compass -- the kind you take when you go hiking.
And I told her this: " It has been a long, long time since I went to college, but I clearly remember one thing. It was a time of making choices - choices as mundane as whether I'd go out with my friends or study for a test, and bigger life choices about what boundaries I was willing to set as far as personal behavior and about who I would give my heart to. A lot of times, I really wished that I could have something to help guide me, to make things clearer so that I could choose the right direction.
So, I'm giving you this compass, not so much for its practical uses, but as a reminder. When you get to point where you face one of these life choices and you're not sure which path to take, take it out and look at it. And let it tell you this one simple truth -- you already know the right way to go. For the past 18 years, with the help of your parents, your teachers and your pastors, you've been perfecting your decision making skills. You're pretty darned good at it by now. So just remember everyone here who loves you and your answer will come easily."