This seems very odd to me. Having two parents at home sharing the burden of raising small children is 1000% different from just one parent at home. And my personal experience includes many different combinations of parents, kids, working, going to school, and being retired.
Totally agree. The point being is the OP mentioned how much he dislikes his job and the desire to RE. For his wife, he mentions her desire to RE, but doesn't say why. Many wives get on board on things to support the husband, etc. Is she on board or is this a true desire. If a true desire...why?