BradMM
Recycles dryer sheets
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- May 15, 2011
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Life is uncertain, that doesn't change just becase we "retire."
Amen to that!
Life is uncertain, that doesn't change just becase we "retire."
Just me, but I did not have to retire to find my 'Real purpose in life'.
I am.
That pretty much sums up my purpose.
Maybe that's your meaningful purpose.I'm really bumping up my post count, aren't I!?!
Maybe it's about the journey, not so much the destination."What would you do all day if you could do whatever you wanted without having to worry about getting paid for it?"
I've made a few runs at trying to answer it for myself. The excitement of the initial pursuit is engaging and feels purposeful.
When I was nursing my knees back to health a few years ago I went through a huge reading pile. These days I have a huge backlog of a reading pile.Until recently the injuries and sore back from my bike crash prevented me from exercising and playing piano. There was very little I could do. Some days I was going crazy from boredom.
Dude, today is my ninth anniversary of ER and I just published my first book. It's not a race, not even against yourself.I don't know if it's because I'm not satisfied with what I've done thus far or just want to get the most out of life. I really don't think it's competition but DW is PhD, CPA, and a bunch of other stuff. Son has masters in Nuclear Engineering and now in med school. Daughter-in-law just finished vet school. Daughter just published first book. Like I said, I don't feel I'm competing but as much as just trying to get more out of life.
Thanks for the feedback!
I also have a killer garden and besides the beauty of my flowers I am able to share my produce with everyone. Sometimes the little things are enough.
Could it be that the purpose of your life was merely to serve as a warning to others?
I don't want to waste the opportunity to try something new with my life and I feel pretty strongly that, if I had the chance to reflect on it in my death bed, I'd be extremely disappointed in myself for not having TRIED!
I always wanted to be somebody, but now I realize I should have been more specific.
I don't have any hobbies that would fill the void and buying an RV and traveling all over wouldn't do it for me or DW. I have a small side business that I planned to work on developing in ER so that wouldn't be REAL retirement, more like changing jobs... but it's work that I would much prefer over current job.... I THINK. I hope!!!
I know that people who retire and haven't figured out how to deal with this issue struggle because their daily routine is no longer there to fill the void. I know some say "follow your passion" but I think that's a bit dramatic and a more reasonable approach would be to just find meaningful purpose.
What do you think
Actually, my father was an A-Hole (it's a long story), so it didn't matter....what would Dad think? What will my boss, my coworkers, the neighbors think?
Actually, my father was an A-Hole (it's a long story), so it didn't matter............
I found the Get-A-Life Tree exercise described in How To Retire Happy, Wild & Free by Zelinski and the concept from movie The Bucket List gave me tons (more than 50) of good ideas. I am just going to dive into all that, what doesn't pan out is fine, some of it will (or lead to other things). And Clyatt's book Work Less, Live More gave me lots of ideas too.
Our FIRST is due in August! That might change EVERYTHING!
If you want your retirement to be successful, you don't retire from something - you retire to something better.
I've long since concluded that, for most people (including me), having a "bucket list" of many items is more realistic than waiting for a single, great, all singing, all dancing "life's purpose" to come along. In this day and age even us introverts have no excuse for not keeping physically and mentally active once we step away from the discipline of the w*rking world. The list of potentially meaningful things to do is endless.
I don't know if it's because I'm not satisfied with what I've done thus far or just want to get the most out of life. I really don't think it's competition but DW is PhD, CPA, and a bunch of other stuff. Son has masters in Nuclear Engineering and now in med school. Daughter-in-law just finished vet school. Daughter just published first book. Like I said, I don't feel I'm competing but as much as just trying to get more out of life.
Thanks for the feedback!
But it's possible you might never be happy completely (or at all) retired and will "need" to keep your hand in. That's okay--we don't have a 12 step program to help you overcome that. Yet. .
Life is full of goals. Some are tactical and others are strategic. But for sure, they change and evolve with time. My list at retirement 8 years ago has evolved as things keep getting checked off.I think you've hit the proverbial nail on the head!!! Looking back, that's always been the case. Achieve my goal, then I'm no longer satisfied.
I'd recommend reading The Humanure Handbook by Joseph Jenkins
I spent a lot of my submarine career working with humanure too...I have a lot of experience with composting and have skimmed this one... strange combination of books!