SO and I reached a point a couple of years ago where we could retire early. Instead, we've both gotten our companies to let us have more time off. We're early 50's.
Problem is, something overall has changed.
Before, with limited time and hectic schedules we seemed to get quite a bit more done, and some chores were even fun. Now it seems everything is a chore, even the fun stuff. A weekend away becomes a "let's get it over with so we can get back home, we have work to do there"
Once home we wait for time off to tackle chores. When time off rolls around "why waste it doing chores"
It's become a cycle we can't get out of and nothing is getting done. Working around the house in the daylight hours is something we both enjoy, these winter nights mean getting home when it's dark and we don't feel like doing anything, that's what weekends are for. Weekend comes and we can't get caught up since we let things slide all week.
Full retirement might take care of it, don't know for sure, and I'm sure Spring time will help. But for the past year or so when we get home from work we don't want to do anything around the house anymore. Like the mind has now said: Work is 9-5 regardless of if it's home chores or at the office, evenings at home is for relaxing.
I will sometimes go out in the shop and work on my hobbies, but that comes with guilt of letting gotta do's slide. Same for my SO.
Take care of the gotta-do's and no time for hobbies that we worked our butts off to get to this point and it frustrates us both.
All this changed once we became finiancially independent. Coincidence?
Anyone care to sit by the couch and analyze this?
Problem is, something overall has changed.
Before, with limited time and hectic schedules we seemed to get quite a bit more done, and some chores were even fun. Now it seems everything is a chore, even the fun stuff. A weekend away becomes a "let's get it over with so we can get back home, we have work to do there"
Once home we wait for time off to tackle chores. When time off rolls around "why waste it doing chores"
It's become a cycle we can't get out of and nothing is getting done. Working around the house in the daylight hours is something we both enjoy, these winter nights mean getting home when it's dark and we don't feel like doing anything, that's what weekends are for. Weekend comes and we can't get caught up since we let things slide all week.
Full retirement might take care of it, don't know for sure, and I'm sure Spring time will help. But for the past year or so when we get home from work we don't want to do anything around the house anymore. Like the mind has now said: Work is 9-5 regardless of if it's home chores or at the office, evenings at home is for relaxing.
I will sometimes go out in the shop and work on my hobbies, but that comes with guilt of letting gotta do's slide. Same for my SO.
Take care of the gotta-do's and no time for hobbies that we worked our butts off to get to this point and it frustrates us both.
All this changed once we became finiancially independent. Coincidence?
Anyone care to sit by the couch and analyze this?
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