"Over 55" communities

[grumpy]

Our 55 and over HOA has two volunteer groups: Helping Hands - provides free minor repair and maintenance services such as changing light bulbs, replacing furnace filters, moving furniture, etc. and Caring Hands - provides free transportation to Dr's appointments, grocery shopping during an illness, etc.

I expect as our community ages (average age now is mid-late 60's) these services will evolve and expand based on needs.

 

[playaman]

My wife and I have lived in an "active adult" community in San Antonio for the past three years. It's not perfect, but we like it. People self-select to live here, tending to be outgoing/social and fairly affluent - so there are neighborhood parties, cruises, and activities in addition to many community-sponsored activities. There is a lack but not absence of ethnic and age diversity, but in a metro area where Spanish is a strong second language, that is not a big issue. "Active adult" communities are not for everyone - and they do have some unreasonable rules - but for many of us, they represent a good choice. My wife and I are pleased with our decision to retire here.

 

[donheff]

Donheff, a woman I work with is very active as a volunteer to the "village" system. She is a "rehired annuitant" who works with us a couple days a week, and does whatever she wants the rest of the time - which often means helping elderly "villagers." She told us all about the concept the other day - we were fascinated. Everyone agreed we would rather go that route, than move to a retirement community. If I were to get into volunteerism, I suspect that's the cause I'd support.

The only thing that made my back hairs rise a little bit was when she commented that she and some other people are "working on" an elderly widow who owns a large home. They are trying to get this widow to rent out part of her home to another Villager...

That does sound over the top. I hope they were doing it because the home owner was in trouble financially and sharing could reduce the burden allowing her to stay put, or was lonely and could use the companionship or help. If they were pressuring her to share her house when she didn't want to or need to that sounds abusive. Did you share your concerns with the woman who talked to you? It could be that she and others simply didn't focus on the negative aspects of their actions and would benefit from your perspective.

As we baby boomers get old we are likely to see a lot more efforts like the village movement and other new 55+ offerings aimed at us. Many will be positive but some will have a dark side. I hope to get solid support structures in place while my mind is functioning so I won't be as vulnerable to the bad guys if I get flaky in my later years.

 

[lynxville]

I have a home in a 55 plus community, I own my own land, and no HOA fees and no rules. It's quiet and peaceful, I love it. But some of these developments have a rule book the size of a dictionary, that's not for me. When trying to sell a home with HOA fees, it's a lot more difficult by me. Right next to me is another development with HOA fees at 400 to 900 per month, with 3% annual increases. They have 130 homes for sale and sold 3 in 12 month's.

 

[flyfishnevada]

My wife and I have lived in an "active adult" community in San Antonio for the past three years. It's not perfect, but we like it. People self-select to live here, tending to be outgoing/social and fairly affluent - so there are neighborhood parties, cruises, and activities in addition to many community-sponsored activities.

You said it. There is no perfect place to live. Every city, neighborhood, community has it's faults. More importantly, do the positives outweigh the negatives.

You also mentioned the activities and such. We are not anti-social, but we're not really outgoing either. We fear the small town effect in a smaller adult community. We live in a small town and have come to dislike the dynamic. We like our anonymity and really dislike the gossip, the judgement, nosy neighbors and the pressure to participate. We know that stuff exists everywhere, but its magnified many times in small community.

I would think the Villages to be so large that they act more like a mid sized city than a small town.

 

[JBmadera]

our number one concern is noise - we will be relocating from a rural area (lot's of space, lot's of horses and way, way too many chores) so we are a bit worried about living in close quarters.

 

[Amethyst]

That does sound over the top. I hope they were doing it because the home owner was... lonely and could use the companionship or help.

My sense was this was the case.

If they were pressuring her to share her house when she didn't want to or need to that sounds abusive. Did you share your concerns with the woman who talked to you? It could be that she and others simply didn't focus on the negative aspects of their actions and would benefit from your perspective.

The woman who talked to us, would never deliberately harm anyone, but is so sure she is "right" that she might seem overbearing to a timid or unsure person. I suspect this was causing the elderly widow to put her back up, even if it was against her own interests. I thought of sharing my suspicions but it would not have gone over well, since I had no "facts."

Amethyst

 

[SteveR]

our number one concern is noise - we will be relocating from a rural area (lot's of space, lot's of horses and way, way too many chores) so we are a bit worried about living in close quarters.

The loss of "personal space" was a major issue for me when we moved 3 years ago. We looked at some of the nicer 55+ communities and felt we were not mentally ready to downsize to that level yet (house and yard) so we opted for more space. We do have a fair number of retired neighbors in the area behind us at that helps keep the kid noise down a bit. Of course our nearest neighbor has a ton of kids as is the ilk here (lots of kids per couple seems to be the norm).

We downsized by nearly a whole house when we moved down here and will do so again sometime in the next 10 years...just not yet. We are having far too much company from friends and family and enjoy having a nice space to host them (for short periods of time).

We have several friends who are happily entrenched in the largest 55+ community here and while I would go crazy with the prison-like living spaces (interior and outside) it seems to work for them. We have a benign HOA in our neighborhood so there are rules and most everyone follows them but there are no dues and no self-important meddlers to try to run folks lives. So, for now we are fine outside of the 55+ communities and since we don't play golf or Pickle Ball we are not missing out on any activities or socializing that does not appeal to us. The limited visitation duration of children and their very limited use of the pool and other facilities also influenced us to look elsewhere. Our grandkids are still all under 18.

I think one has to enjoy groups and group activities and lots of structure to really enjoy most of the ones we visited. I doubt I would fit in as it really does not appeal to me. Besides, living with nothing but a bunch of "old farts" around you all the time can be a challenge.

 

[crispus]

our number one concern is noise - we will be relocating from a rural area (lot's of space, lot's of horses and way, way too many chores) so we are a bit worried about living in close quarters.

I could see that you would have culture shock moving from such a wide open rural area. That is not the case with us. We live just of main street in a small town near Baltimore. It used to be very quiet here 20 years ago, but the "city" has moved out to our town. The subway has extended very close to our area and with it comes section 8 housing, horrible traffic, and crime. We live in a gated community in a 3 floor duplex. We pay $240 per month HOA fees and get little for them, mostly landscaping and snow removal. If we open our windows at night, we can hear plenty of traffic (emergency vehicles, motor cycles, trucks) from Main St. When we were in the Villages, we were shocked by the absolute quiet at night. Also the sky was so clear that we could see stars like I could in my youth. So we are used to very little yard and no privacy, but the quiet nights at the Villages will seem more rural to us.

think one has to enjoy groups and group activities and lots of structure to really enjoy most of the ones we visited. I doubt I would fit in as it really does not appeal to me. Besides, living with nothing but a bunch of "old farts" around you all the time can be a challenge.

I mentioned to my wife if she thought it was too old for us there. She came back with a great line. "What do you think we are?" That was on the 2nd day of our visit. By the end of our stay we did find many in the 50-59 range who love it there.

 

[donheff]

When we were in the Villages, we were shocked by the absolute quiet at night. Also the sky was so clear that we could see stars like I could in my youth.

And therein lies a new ER hobby. Buy a nice automated "goto" telescope and bag the 100 Messier objects

 

[braumeister]

When we were in the Villages, we were shocked by the absolute quiet at night. Also the sky was so clear that we could see stars like I could in my youth. So we are used to very little yard and no privacy, but the quiet nights at the Villages will seem more rural to us.

The Villages sounds like it would be a great place for many people. I have a friend who is a real estate professional in central Florida, and probably knows more than most. He plans to retire there in the next few years, so that's a strong endorsement in my book.

I couldn't handle it, simply because of the climate. I need some cold weather for balance, and DW feels the same. Anything south of Ohio just wouldn't work for us.

 

[Gary412]

The Villages FL

Hi,

One of the biggest and best communities in the country is The Villages just North of Orlando FL. [Content removed by moderator.]

I love it in The Villages

 

[Blackwoodt]

Smaller communities are all too susceptible to tyrants, dog-weighers, and apathetic owners. It can be a lethal combination.

Currently there is no way DH, and I could live in a ‘community’ we have way too much stuff. Then again, I’m not sure that I want anyone telling me what color I can paint my house, or what size dog I can have. We moved out into the county to get away from neighborhoods like that.

At some point when we need to downsize then maybe, but the thought of someone with a Napoleon complex driving around just looking for offenses turns me off, kind of like the overzealous marshal on a golf course.

 

[ziggy29]

Currently there is no way DH, and I could live in a ‘community’ we have way too much stuff. Then again, I’m not sure that I want anyone telling me what color I can paint my house, or what size dog I can have. We moved out into the county to get away from neighborhoods like that.

It depends on where you wind up. When we left Houston I was thinking it will be good to get out from under the restrictions of an HOA, but living next door to folks who leave junked cars and appliances on their land, who invite local ne'er-do-wells to hang out on their property and drink beer all evening with cars and trucks parked everywhere and music blaring from said parked vehicles, has sort of made me miss it a bit. (Fortunately it's better now than it was, say, a year or two ago for various reasons.)

Obviously one that uses Gestapo-like tactics and is too heavy handed isn't good. But there *can* be something said for an influence that makes people take care of their property and the neighborhood.

 

[Blackwoodt]

living next door to folks who leave junked cars and appliances on their land, who invite local ne'er-do-wells to hang out on their property and drink beer all evening with cars and trucks parked everywhere and music blaring from said parked vehicles.

I understand, and you must have met my neighbors! Fortunately we live on acreage, and they are far enough away that we only see the back of their property.

The only time we hear them is when they are celebrating a holiday by shooting off their guns, and riding their 4-wheelers in the field!

You might be a redneck if……..

 

[travelover]

Hi,

One of the biggest and best communities in the country is The Villages just North of Orlando FL. [Content removed by moderator.]

I love it in The Villages

 

[KingB]

I don't if it is. It was a comment after several other posters mentioned the community. He may be just trying to give more info.

 

[Tree-dweller]

Not ready

When the foulmouth rugrats and clueless parents next door are acting up, a 55+ community seems like a great idea. Then we go check one out, and we just get the feeling we're looking at God's waiting room. There really is no offense intended to those opting to live in one, and I'm speaking without having walked in your moccasins. We are probably overlooking what would be a fantastic lifestyle choice. It's just the gut feeling we get. But no doubt the rugrats will aggravate again, and we'll go looking again. And so it goes...

 

[fun in the sun]

We have had a home in The Villages for 5 years. There is nothing like it anywhere. It is more than you could ever imagine. Hello to Crispus & Gary 412.

 

[haha]

Any living situation has pluses and minuses, but more importantly every person or couple weight these positive and negative factors differently.

What one person might hate, another will really love. If you are a couple, it really helps if your preferences are similar.

Ha

 

[crispus]

We have had a home in The Villages for 5 years. There is nothing like it anywhere. It is more than you could ever imagine. Hello to Crispus & Gary 412.

Hi Fun in the sun. I can't wait to be down in the Villages. It feels like we will not be truly retired until we move. As for it feeling like Gods waiting room, everywhere you live the end result is the same. People in the Villages seem to enjoy life and live it to the max. That is something that is a lot harder to do living in an area where you must do a lot of driving and pay a lot of a la carte memberships to accomplish. Everything in the Villages is within a short cart ride. The cost of living is so much less in FL that we will be able to travel much more often.

But alas qw are still here in Maryland. Our house has been on the market for 3 weeks with no interest thus far. Priced it to sell, we are praying to be out of here before the winter sets in. We have been suffering through a very hot summer. Temps here in Baltimore county have been near 100 degrees. I think it would be cooler in the Villages.

Its hard putting our life on hold until our home sells. We are in limbo and it is giving us great stress.