scrabbler1
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I have absolutely no nuggets of wisdom to offer. I'm 53 and have been with my current SO for about 9 years. We live just over half a mile apart, and it's the perfect distance. We spend an afternoon together each weekend, sometimes a whole day, and get to see each other for coffee and market trips a couple of times in the week. We are both agreed that there is no way we could live together, but our current arrangement works well for both of us.
My story has some similarities to yours, Major Tom. I am 54 and have been with my LF for the last 12 years. We don't live together but live about 1/4 mile apart, walking distance. She works FT and I spend a few nights a week at her place while she spends 1 night a week at my place. We met on line and she relocated here (Long Island, NY) from Kentucky. She has a grown daughter from a prior relationship but my LF has never been married.
I live in a studio apartment in a co-op complex and have owned it for the last 28 years. It is too small for two people, not that I really want to live with my LF. Her rental apartment is larger than mine but it's a mediocre apartment building so I wouldn't want to live there.
I have been a loner for the most part, so I still like my alone time. Being an ER since late 2008 has given me more alone time which I like.