Every year since 2008/9(?) Mom's 3 children get the gift tax limit of $14k at Christmas time. Each of 5 grands get $10k.
It all started like this. After Dad died in 2007 Mom and her 3 children, including me, met with a lawyer to close out Dads estate. At that time, the estate tax limit was about to expire. Congress would soon be deciding what the new limit should be. The lawyer thought Congress would cut the limit from $3M(?) to around $1M or so. This would have hit Mom's estate hard if she died since she had well over $1M. The lawyer recommended Mom start giving maximal tax free gifts to her children and grandchildren to quickly reduce the size of her estate. Brother and Sister were absolutely euphoric about the recommendation.
But instead of reducing the estate tax limit, as the lawyer had anticipated, Congress increased it instead. The new high limit eliminated the high tax threat from Mom's estate. There was no longer any need to reduce Mom's assets to avoid estate taxes. But you can probably guess what happened to the large gifts that the lawyer initiated. They have continued unabated ever since.
No doubt the large gifts have taken a huge chunk out of Mom's assets over the years. It probably explains why Sister quit sharing Mom's account balance with me. It also likely explains why Brother is not complaining. He's got 3 kids.
Dad is probably rolling over in his grave. I'm sure he intended his 3 children to inherit equally, and not after his estate was diminished by large gifts to grands. Mom, on the other hand, is totally passive about financial matters. She'd go along with just about anything to keep the peace. And Brother and Sister would not have allowed any peace if Mom stopped the large gifts. I complained loudly after the estate tax limits changed, but was simply outnumbered. So the grand kids went from getting maybe $100 Christmas gifts to getting $10k instead, all at the mistaken recommendation of an estate lawyer. Pretty sweet huh?