Thanks all, we (well, DW) is tracking actual spending...has been for years so we do have those numbers. I got lazy a bit and started lumping some of the categories together vs. calling out the, as an example, $22 we spent on postage, $64.92 we spent on magazine subscriptions, $10.82 on music, etc. (those are actuals for 2020).
To answer a few of the questions:
1. Yes, about $2.56M in 401K
2. Yes, mortgage is paid off
3. Children are grown, moved out, gainfully employed and/or married...as to whether they might need assistance, well, not now but always possible of course.
4. Current plan on SS is for DW to draw at 70 (roughly $45K/yr), and me to draw at 62 (roughly $26K/yr)...assuming typical life expectancies, she will die before me and I will get my SS + survivor benefit (putting me at $45K for those years after her death).
5. As an aside, we do have $150K (beyond 401ks) set aside for long overdue home remodeling/updates...of course that money won't go as far as I think!
As to the budget items:
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The $2500 life insurance - Consists of two term policies (DH - $1M, DW $200K), and very small ($70k) whole policy for DW. The term policies expire at our respective 65th bdays...most of the cost is my term so have another decade there (@ $1600/yr) - consider it a "safety net" for DW in case I stroke out at megacorp and got all this financial planning wrong...more for her peace of mind right now).
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Budget shortfall for the big "every few years" expense - This is a good callout. I am so used to trying to FIX things I sometimes forget that isn't always possible (I'm not going to replace my own roof, paint the exterior of my house or replace our fence myself). I am also milking the A/C units...Hypothetically, I may or may not have gotten my HVAC license just so I can buy my own refrigerant!
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. Still, over a 35 year window, I know I'm going to encounter this stuff...and more than once!
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Dining Out / Entertainment - Our current expenses have actually averaged $750/mo this year (aka $9K annually) so there is some flexibility there. It does include "food" on the one vacation we took this year and a few "pick up the tabs" for family gathering meals (Bdays, etc.). Still, it can be reduced.
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Auto - I think I overshot a bit in this estimate, but wanted to be conservative. As a gearhead, I used to do all my own repairs and bought only used. Unfortunately, my "car guy" tastes took an unpredicted turn...to electric cars and now, while I can still do brakes, suspension, minor body work, etc. the mechanical is predominantly left to the manufacturer or dealer (ugh!)...which has me looking at more new cars than I have historically, DANG YOU FIRST WORLD PROBLEMS! Regardless, probably a bit high.
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Property taxes - yep, looking forward to DW hitting 65 in 2023 for the over 65 exemption on school portion! Of course it would have been nice to have hit that BEFORE the recent skyrocket in real estate...oh well.
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Other Items - All good points, will re-evaluate a few of those.
daylatedollarshort's comment about looking at every individual expense for opportunities to reduce is good as well. Indeed, I "cut the cord" earlier this year with regard to cable and dropped our home phone lines in the process. Just yesterday, I was shopping for lower cell phone rates. I suspect we'll begin doing our grocery shopping at Walmart soon enough (instead of Tom Thumb), to reduce expense there.
As noted in one of my posts above, as much as I now loathe my megacorp position, I cannot see me even
considering pulling the trigger (for me) until DW hits 65 (only about 18 months away). Getting at least one of us on Medicare would give us both a better comfort level. DW will retire any time between now and mid-Summer next year...really all dependent upon when her position is eliminated. Heck, I've even considered solar, but the math never works out there (and our house isn't conducive). We also change electric providers every year to get the cheapest one.
I very much appreciate the feedback here!